I graduated in May 2025 and have been working as a Systems Engineer at a medium-sized insurance company for about a year. I recently received an offer for a new role through a family friend, who is a program manager at the company.
The new role is a significant increase in pay, from $72k to $105k base with similar benefits. I also had a very positive impression of the team throughout the interview process, so I really do not want to miss out on this opportunity.
My issue is the timing of my start date versus resigning from my current job.
I had a vacation planned for September 24 through October 2 months in advance. After I received the offer, the hiring manager and recruiter emailed me saying that, after I accepted, we could work out a start date.
Shortly afterward, I spoke with the family friend who referred me. She asked when I would return from vacation, and then asked whether I could start on October 5. I said yes without thinking through the fact that I would need to give my current employer notice. I assumed the date was still something I would formally work out with the recruiter and hiring manager.
However, she communicated October 5 to the partner organization involved in the project, and my offer paperwork later reflected that as my start date. I asked whether we could move it to October 12, so I would have at least some time after returning from vacation to resign. She said yes, although she made it clear that the delay was inconvenient because they wanted me included in meetings with the project’s Principal Investigator.
Then the drug-test situation complicated things further. My first test was reported as dilute/inconclusive, so I received an order to retest. I have not used marijuana in 36 days, but I do not want to resign on some off chance that I test positive.
I plan to take the second test tomorrow, but I likely will not receive the result until Wednesday. If it comes back negative, I would only have time to give my current employer about three business days’ notice before the October 12 start date.
I feel stuck between two bad options:
- Ask the new employer to delay my start date again—possibly to October 19—after already requesting one delay, risking that I look unreliable or that they reconsider the offer.
- Give my current employer only three days’ notice, which I feel is unprofessional and could burn a bridge.
What would you do in this situation? Is it better to ask for another start-date adjustment, or accept that I may need to give short notice to my current employer?
Timeline clarified:
- September 7: Received offer
- September 14: Accepted offer; background check started; October 5 start date set
- September 16: Requested and received an adjusted start date of October 12
- September 22: First drug test
- September 24–October 2: Vacation
- September 28: Notified that first drug test was dilute/inconclusive
- October 3: Received order for second drug test
- October 4: Planning to take second drug test
- Expected Wednesday: Results expected, leaving roughly three business days before the October 12 start date
Also, yes, I used AI to clean this up. I have the Flu and cannot think straight right now.