I have been a bit curious lately about this institute, Marriage. Yaani, people are willingly going through it and suffering for what? If kids are in the picture, well we could argue about that, but eh it's still a lame excuse if you ask me...
Case study; earlier this year I found a rebound, it's was supposed to be a one day hit then we both go our separate ways. I was just from an abusive relationship and ehhh, a little bit too much shots and a funny guy under the open sky and one thing did lead to the other. However day one was a disappoinment and I genuinely ghosted for a while. Some might remember the escapades I shared during that period.
Lakini he became persistent in looking for me and finally did, where i work. He begged for a second chance and I thought ah well damn it....sasa shida ni moja, he forgot to mention that he was married, hmmm. And also he said the issue with his performance the other day was because he hasn't really ate anyone except his wife in over 2 years. Hmmmm, fala nikaamini. Now for context, we have around 9...10 year age gap, but that didn't seem like it was an issue, because we hit it off really well.
Now, feelings zikaanza kuingia kwa kazi, big mistake. Before this, time was always there to meet up and I could call at anytime without an issue. We could meet every week, meaning he had to travel 3 counties over to get to where I was, spend the entire day then leave jioni. This worked perfectly until the day I openly expressed some hint of jealousy. We were on a call, then he asked to hang up and call back shortly his wife was calling, I felt it. 3 hours later he called back and I didn't bother answering his calls for the rest of the day.
When I eventually did, I expressed my feelings and that conversation went south real fast, we even agreed to stay away from each other. But eeeh, tamaaa ni naniii, we eventually met three weeks later and that was one of the hottest sessions we ever had. Shida ni moja, that day his wife caught a long on his behaviors and he'll broke loose. But she stayed. Now at this point ndio I started questioning the lies that this man might have fed me. Talking about being loyal to just me and his wife, but then again he was down for the idea ya a 3 some the moment I brought it up. Again, for you to be so confident that your wife won't leave you even if she finds out shows this is not your first rodeo....
Furthermore, you had safety measures in place, in as much as we weren't really talking on WhatsApp, I learnt a whole world of alternative apps and heeeh...lastly, as a hypersexual being myself, I know how we can get at times, and for someone like him, getting women doesn't seem like it was an issue really....Anyway, that ship finally sinked na ni after he was caught the second time, mentally in a better place and I don't believe that I will find myself in that situation again, but heeeh this married people can lie. But then kama Hauna mtoto na huyu mtu why continue staying? Ps, they have been married for less than 3 years, no kids. Mambo ya moyo kweli ni ngumu aiseeee!