Unfortunately, I think it's a problem with how insular a lot of trans communities are. I very, very rarely encounter trans meetup groups, trans forums or even trans friend groups where there is even close to an even mix of transmascs and transfem. Most trans groups tend to heavily sway to one side or the other, and then when it gets pointed out it gets seen as picking a fight.
A trans friend of mine tried to join a trans club in college and ended up having to leave as all there wasn't a single other trans woman involved and the other members made her uncomfortable with how they treated her. I'm sure a lot of trans people have similar stories of trying to join a group, and not being treated well because you're a different gender than most of the other members.
There's a similar divide between cis gay men and cis lesbians, where they don't intermingle a ton. Hell, even cishet people mostly only make friends of people of the same gender as themselves. Society just kinda discourages making friends with and understanding people who aren't the same gender as yourself.
That's certainly the case for some people, but I don't often meet people who keep a lot of friends of different genders. I've been to a few meetup groups for LGBT stuff and they tend to sway heavily one way or another. Bigger events like pride usually have a much better mix, but smaller things like meetup groups tend to attract people of one gender and then scare away anyone else because they feel like they can't relate.
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u/Charming_Pin330 4h ago
Unfortunately, I think it's a problem with how insular a lot of trans communities are. I very, very rarely encounter trans meetup groups, trans forums or even trans friend groups where there is even close to an even mix of transmascs and transfem. Most trans groups tend to heavily sway to one side or the other, and then when it gets pointed out it gets seen as picking a fight.