True, but the specific subreddit restricts dead bedroom to meaning less than 10 per year and at least one party is unhappy. Only one of those conditions is met a 3/month.
Without context, this frequency could be higher or lower than normal for some circumstantial reason, but I assume the guy shared it to his wife and the internet because its pretty low for them.
Making a slight leap here, but it's miraculous the lass found the energy to have sex with this dude three times in one month when he put more effort into his spreadsheet for internet points than communication, presumably. Probably fake anyway so whatever, but sometimes people have sex less in a month too and that's fine. I'd be on feckin' edge if I felt I need to hit a sex quota, don't bring middle management into the bedroom is my advice, never works out.
A dead bedroom is generally defined as less than once a month. Average is roughly once a week in a healthy marriage. Either way, that couple should divorce.
While there is no specific definition for a Deadbedroom. The generally accepted definition is sex less than 10 times a year. The average amount of sex in married couples is once a week. So this couple is just under the average at 3 times in a month.
Not saying this has to be enough or that you can’t want more sex/ get divorced because it’s not enough. But this isn’t a dead bedroom by the generally accepted definition. Most people in the dead bedroom community would weep with joy at being able to have sex 3 times a month.
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u/Fendrihl 24d ago
Can't wait to see this in r/moralityscaling