Regrets And Perspectives

[u/Timbucktwo1230]

[u/Secure_Impress9320]

Kindly remind her she has contributed about $320k per year since she has been 24/7 home manager, child raiser, Financial planner, cook, laundress, driver......

[u/city_in_ruin → u/Secure_Impress9320]

Which he made possible for her to do.

[u/Umm_is_this_thing_on → u/city_in_ruin]

Which she made possible for him to do.

[u/theWolf371 → u/Umm_is_this_thing_on]

No she didnt.  She made it possible for him to have children while doing it. The career was all him. 

[u/Easily_Bann4 → u/Umm_is_this_thing_on]

I really hate this line of reasoning, as if he wouldn’t have been working a job without her 🤦🏾‍♂️

[u/Umm_is_this_thing_on → u/Easily_Bann4]

It isn’t the job he wouldn’t have been working. Too often what women contribute to the family gets ignored as invisible labor without weighing the financial impact she contributes. The thing is, often it goes unpaid. And if they get divorced she doesn’t get compensated for the loss of income and advancement. She enters the workforce at entry level and often no retirement. She willingly gives for the family but gets forgotten along the way.

[u/Easily_Bann4 → u/Umm_is_this_thing_on]

No, this is nonsense. If she lived alone she’d be working, cooking and cleaning herself.

If he lived alone he’d be working, cooking and cleaning himself.

Someone staying home only enables someone else to work more. Hurray. Everyone’s dream is to work more right?

Her life is subsidized, and barring him being abusive, it’s a kush ass position in 2026. Getting to raise your own kids, cook your own meals, keep your shit in order, combine with the advancements of tech, is literally the dream. Fuck working. You wanna work +50 hours a week while your kids grow up without you so you can advance your career? Go off bro. This shit is cheeks. Being a SAHP is so easy mother fuckers are complaining about not being able to work 🤦🏾‍♂️

In the divorce she gets half the shit stop playing.