Regrets And Perspectives

[u/Timbucktwo1230]

[u/Secure_Impress9320]

Kindly remind her she has contributed about $320k per year since she has been 24/7 home manager, child raiser, Financial planner, cook, laundress, driver......

[u/Umm_is_this_thing_on → u/Secure_Impress9320]

And make sure that is reflected in her personal retirement account and a personal savings account in her bane.

[u/Umm_is_this_thing_on → u/Umm_is_this_thing_on]

*name

[u/city_in_ruin → u/Secure_Impress9320]

Which he made possible for her to do.

[u/Umm_is_this_thing_on → u/city_in_ruin]

Which she made possible for him to do.

[u/theWolf371 → u/Umm_is_this_thing_on]

No she didnt.  She made it possible for him to have children while doing it. The career was all him. 

[u/Easily_Bann4 → u/Umm_is_this_thing_on]

I really hate this line of reasoning, as if he wouldn’t have been working a job without her 🤦🏾‍♂️

[u/Umm_is_this_thing_on → u/Easily_Bann4]

It isn’t the job he wouldn’t have been working. Too often what women contribute to the family gets ignored as invisible labor without weighing the financial impact she contributes. The thing is, often it goes unpaid. And if they get divorced she doesn’t get compensated for the loss of income and advancement. She enters the workforce at entry level and often no retirement. She willingly gives for the family but gets forgotten along the way.

[u/Easily_Bann4 → u/Umm_is_this_thing_on]

No, this is nonsense. If she lived alone she’d be working, cooking and cleaning herself.

If he lived alone he’d be working, cooking and cleaning himself.

Someone staying home only enables someone else to work more. Hurray. Everyone’s dream is to work more right?

Her life is subsidized, and barring him being abusive, it’s a kush ass position in 2026. Getting to raise your own kids, cook your own meals, keep your shit in order, combine with the advancements of tech, is literally the dream. Fuck working. You wanna work +50 hours a week while your kids grow up without you so you can advance your career? Go off bro. This shit is cheeks. Being a SAHP is so easy mother fuckers are complaining about not being able to work 🤦🏾‍♂️

In the divorce she gets half the shit stop playing.

[u/Secure_Impress9320 → u/[deleted]]

She is both on a team and she's an individual who seems to need support at the moment. Being in "the team" doesn't negate her feelings.

[u/NotToPraiseHim → u/Secure_Impress9320]

The post is AI slop but, being part of a team means not vindictively expressing your unresolved, unvoiced frustrations at your child, showing how much you resent their father.

In the post, her kids have been in school for a long time now. Plenty of time to tell your partner "Hey, kids are in school, I want to do X, so I need Y from you".

This reeks of lashing out at someone else for personal and character failures. Like if he blamed his wife's cooking for not getting a promotion.