Regrets And Perspectives

[u/Timbucktwo1230]

[u/Wolfegarde]

This is what resentment turns into. She sacrificed all those things in order to give her husband everything he wanted. The resentment forms when the sacrifice isn’t acknowledged. He sees it as mutual. She didn’t. They didn’t properly communicate, for any number of reasons.

[u/lck0219 → u/[deleted]]

I think the point is that she made the initial sacrifice, and momentum carried them along the rest of the way. She knew it, he was oblivious.

Sometimes you can continue on the path you’re on because it makes sense, but know that it’s not the original path you planned and that can be a little upsetting- even if you’re content enough where you are.

[u/MardocAgain → u/lck0219]

All of that is fair, but finally speaking up 18 years later to shit on your husband to your daughter speaks volumes about the quality of communication in this marriage.

I dont think anyone is the good guy here. Marriage takes work and that work is often ugly fights and unpleasant nights as both partners need to stand up for themselves while also being understanding of the others needs.