Regrets And Perspectives

[u/Timbucktwo1230]

[u/Salt-Lingonberry-853]

OK, but what the wife said is still incredibly toxic and I cannot fathom why this sub is so reluctant to call that out. It's literally blatant. She didn't sacrifice for her husband, she sacrificed for herself and her family.

[u/Separate-Taste3513 → u/Salt-Lingonberry-853]

But she sacrificed. What did her husband sacrifice? Did her labor allow him to pursue his career without focusing equal attention and energy to his home and children?

It's toxic because it's hurtful, right? She was hurt by those circumstances and lost opportunities while he was allowed to pursue his goals. What did he do to help her achieve HER goals?

[u/Free-Mongoose-1983 → u/Separate-Taste3513]

Maybe she should have communicated with her husband and stopped having more kids or not had kids at all. Abortions and birth control exist. This was completely avoidable but she chose to not say anything and harbor resentment for something he didn't intend to do for 20 years.

[u/Separate-Taste3513 → u/Free-Mongoose-1983]

Are abortion and birth control options for everyone at every time?

From this post, we know that abortion was not considered a viable option because the choice made by both of them was to "postpone" her educational goals.

They absolutely should have communicated better and more openly. They should have planned better before and after that particular pregnancy. Lots of shoulds, woulds, and coulds. The result, however, is a woman who was not helped in the pursuit of her own personal fulfillment and a man who never even considered she needed any help.

[u/Frylock_dontDM → u/Separate-Taste3513]

Kids go to school.

You have about 7hrs uninterrupted a day after the kids turn about 5-6yrs old to be able to attend school.

This is not a hard situation to overcome in the least.

The AI that wrote this forgot to include a reason she couldn't study in her mid twenties when the kids went to school.

Speaking as someone who went back to school and got a second degree in my mid twenties, 3 classes at a time isn't a huge deal, and it's college, no one cares that much if you miss a class or 3, as long as you get the work done

[u/Free-Mongoose-1983 → u/Separate-Taste3513]

Even if abortion wasn't available for the first. They continued to have kids. Birth control exists, condoms are extremely cheap and accessible, they should've used them. They should've used it for the first child as well. Family planning is done by intelligent people.

Ultimately this is the fault of the woman for not communicating and expecting her husband to read her mind. Why is she wasting time giving him "hints" instead of being direct. But ultimately it doesn't matter because the post is fake and written by a bot

[u/throwawayshmoaway411 → u/Separate-Taste3513]

Well, seeing as Roe v Wade has only been overturned for like a year, and this couple has been married for 20 years, yes, abortion and birth control were both options available to them.