r/AskReddit • u/AuthorConfident9386 • 13h ago

Men, what’s one small, seemingly insignificant thing you’ve noticed that can be a telltale sign of the difference between a genuinely good man and a bad one?

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u/qxrt 10h ago edited 10h ago

Those who, upon facing adversity, adapt and make the attempt to figure out a workaround to a problem situation, versus those who just complain and have a victim mentality but won't lift a finger to attempt to fix the situation or help themselves.

Anyone can seem like a good person in good times. The real differentiating factor becomes apparent when there's adversity.

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u/HonestDisguise 9h ago

Second paragraph sure, I’m not sure the first paragraph has a lot to do with being a good person or not, it sound a lot more like resilience (a skill, with individual limits). Good people still get overwhelmed and struggle.

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u/TimmyC 6h ago

this is literally fundamental attribution error