r/AskReddit • u/AuthorConfident9386 • 14h ago

Men, what’s one small, seemingly insignificant thing you’ve noticed that can be a telltale sign of the difference between a genuinely good man and a bad one?

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u/LeaneGenova 12h ago

I'm banned from playing competitive games with my husband because he always wins and it makes me salty. I've switched to buying only co-op games for the sake of my marriage.

My husband is the most graceful winner and loser, which makes it all the more insulting that I'm such a brat lol.

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u/aCynicalMind 12h ago

This is a genuinely good-faith question here, without any ill-intent:

Have you tried addressing the issue within yourself, or is pivoting to co-op games a way of avoiding that process?

That being asked, co-op gaming seems like a very suitable band-aid solution.

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u/LeaneGenova 12h ago

Oh, I work on it. I'm much better than I was in my early 20s, but I also give myself grace as I grew up poorly socialized and with a lot of toxic coping mechanisms. So it's going to be a work in progress for quite a while. Part of it is that I was attacked as a child for not being the best, and losing was made fun of ruthlessly, so I built up a sense of indignation to protect my sense of self.

Co-op games are genuinely fun for me, and it's a way we can enjoy without every gaming session becoming part of my therapy of working on myself. Sometimes a girl just wants to turn her brain off, you know?

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u/Xytriuss 11h ago

Turn the excuses into reasons, that’s my motivation