r/AskReddit • u/AuthorConfident9386 • 13h ago

Men, what’s one small, seemingly insignificant thing you’ve noticed that can be a telltale sign of the difference between a genuinely good man and a bad one?

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u/sutree1 12h ago

The only way to judge a person is by observing their actions over time.

Our society is obsessed with being able to sort good from bad at a glance. That's not how it works.

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u/TexWashington 11h ago

Deffo need solid sample size, for a more nuanced approach. However, how many times should one observe shitty behavior from an individual before taking caution? How many green flags make for a false sense of security?

When talking to strangers, all one has is their first impression. And a bad first impression is hard to overcome, and good first impressions make tragic betrayals.

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u/FLguy3 11h ago

Prettt much this. Takes a while to confirm someone is good. Often doesn't take that long to confirm they are not.

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u/nmezib 6h ago

"A man can build a thousand bridges in his lifetime, and be known as The Guy Who Builds Bridges. But as soon as he fucks one goat..."

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u/KDLGates 8h ago

My ex was married over 10 years before her husband threw her into walls and went to prison.