r/mildlyinfuriating • u/limitlessEXP • 4h ago
frist of all how DARE yu o Thought this was hilarious lol some people are just insane
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u/ldrlychld 4h ago
LOL had a dude told me when and where to meet him right off the bat I would have blocked him 🤨
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u/huevo-solo 4h ago
Well duh, because you should have just asked them some personal questions first, like hello?
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u/Celestiiaal0 4h ago
"You should've just made a plan." Bitch, what? With a stranger? That's unsettling.
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u/Oh_Cosmos 4h ago
8:37pm tonight, the mailbox under the big tree at the end of the block, bring unsalted peanuts.
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u/Wild-Video-5317 4h ago
I'm swiping right on your comment but reddit won't match us for some reason.
I'll bring 2 kinds of peanuts
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u/cubitoaequet 4h ago
Kel, grab a clown, a submarine, a pair of binoculars, a can of whipped cream, and meet me on the roof of the White House at 10:00!
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u/DarkIcedWolf 4h ago
Imagining getting a message from someone specifying a location through non-specific landmarks is hilarious.
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u/DaKrazie1 4h ago
All I have is circus peanuts, can we make those work?
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u/your_catfish_friend 4h ago
Unsalted, roasted in-shell peanuts. At least two pounds. I know my worth.
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u/imsolelyme 4h ago
Yeah, this isn’t 50 Shades of Grey, it’s a dating app and these guys are strangers. I hate that “dom” approach some men take where they just say “Let’s get drinks at XYZ at 8 on Saturday. I’ll pick you up.” or something after either not talking at all before that, or having only exchanged a few words. It’s cringey, like they think I’m gonna be weak at the knees over how assertive and how much of a leader they are and say “Yes, daddy!” or some shit. Wild seeing a woman actually receptive to that, guess there’s someone for everyone.
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u/Overwatcher_Leo 4h ago
Do people actually try to date like that? I found reading that example actually repulsive. This "Let's do x, I'll pick you up". No question if you even want to, just asserting that you do. If somebody talked to me like that, I would not feel charmed, I would feel disrespected.
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u/SquirrelStone 4h ago
No fr if I received a first message with date plans (and an unspoken expectation I just go along with it and have no input), I’d be putting that guy under the “massive red flags, share location with parents and three friends before meeting” list if I even dignified it with a response at all. Op should just keep doing what he’s doing cause most women see what this woman wants as a red flag.
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u/Glittering_Gene8388 4h ago
She's fishing for free meals, can guarantee you this leech doesn't watch anime
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u/Bbimbofied 4h ago
If she was doing that she isn’t any good at it. You don’t ruin it that fast if you want a date/meal out of it
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u/BenjaminDover02 3h ago
She was probably hoping that he'd beg her to reconsider.
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u/dadarkgtprince 4h ago
You dodged a bullet
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u/dragonflies2299 4h ago
wouldn't a normal person be pissed if they were told when and where to show up? "Be at xyz tomorrow at 8p".
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u/Tall-Mango4759 4h ago
Yeah that’s a big giant no immediately.
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u/Technical-Mistake122 4h ago
Right? As like the first line too. "This person is planning a crime against me" would be my first thought.
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u/SaltyTelluride 4h ago
Drive to mile marker 22 going eastbound on I-40. Pull over, park, and head 3.2 km SE from there. I’ll be waiting next to the mossy boulder and fallen log. Be there in exactly 24 hours from now, don’t disappoint me kitten. Be sure to wear a dress and heels.
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u/Evangeline__R 4h ago
Fr. Just seems bossy. Would much rather someone ask when I'm free. Shows that they respect my time. Plus, who makes plans with a stranger?
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u/whowillshaveus 4h ago
The problem is that dating these days is only dodging bullets and not actually meeting anyone
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u/Evangeline__R 4h ago
How tf is he supposed to make a plan if he doesn't even know if you're free? Tf
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u/ParsleySnipps 4h ago
They're waiting on some Andrew Tate type to swoop them up apparently.
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u/Gaming_Nomad 2h ago
Sounds about right. She wants replacement dad with an unlimited credit card, not an equal partner who feels like a best friend.
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u/meme_landiz 4h ago
After that message « Yes but not with you :) » I wouldn’t have bothered responding tbh, just block and go on with life. Some humans are just not worth any effort or time.
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u/Grammaton485 3h ago
It was 100% a neg/attempt to solicit a reaction. People like this aren't on online to date or meet people, they are just there to fuck with people for entertainment.
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u/Eridain 3h ago
So what, she wants an actual psychopath? Like who the fuck would start a conversation with someone they literally have never interacted with before with "hey meet me at x, we are going out"? And what kind of deranged mind would say "sure, i'll meet you there"?
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u/Atzkicica 3h ago
Unironically? Terrance Howard and the girl he was with at the time of his infamous Rolling Stone interview.
So mathematical geniuses beyond our comprehension.
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u/roberttheaxolotl 4h ago
You should be happy. You could have gotten three months in and found out this person is awful. Instead, you found out right away and skipped all that
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u/Fogmoz 2h ago
In an alternate dimension:
- “Any plans for the weekend?”
“Yes but not with you :)”
- “That’s what you think ;) Meet me at <popular spot>, 7pm tomorrow.”
“Omg you’re so arrogant, you think you can just boss me around?”
*She then blocks you and posts the convo to Reddit*
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u/TheTaoOfMe 4h ago
I hate people like this. They invent arbitrary nonsense in their heads they hold people to, and instead of recognizing they’re being dumb af, they act like its a positive thing
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u/ImJacksAwkwardBoner 4h ago
Gross. All you missed out on was a night of one sided conversations and unreasonable expectations. Lucky you!
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u/Funny_w0lf 4h ago edited 4h ago
You have any plans?
"Not with you"
Why?
"You didnt make a plan"
Did she want "Hey Andrea, you are meeting with me Saturday at 7pm and we're going to Canes."
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u/MadCasper3755 4h ago
Oh shit, I know her. I'm going to share this with people
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u/Grand_Requirement_71 3h ago
I don’t believe this for a second, a one month old account who just happens to see this post? Karma farming troll
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u/Pertinent-nonsense 4h ago
Can you find out what fuckin’ anime’s she likes? Cliffhanger fr
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u/SipDhit69 4h ago
Eyo this please, we gotta judge her heavy on it given this type shit
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u/CPLCraft 3h ago
But what if she likes apothecary diaries?
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u/SipDhit69 3h ago
Then she should have been proud of it!
I really gotta finish that one tho
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u/Funny_w0lf 4h ago
PLEASE give us an update if/when she finds out there's a whole reddit thread about her lmfao
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u/surkitxx 4h ago
please do, women need to be told they are losers more often and called out on loser behavior like this
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u/Scratchums 2h ago
As a guy, if I'm messaging a woman a time and place immediately, and she accepts the terms of the date and agrees to meet me instead of a polite introduction and questions that lead me to a better understanding of the type of person I'm talking to, that ain't no woman, that's a giant crustacean from the paleolithic era coming out of the water staring above you with big, red eyes, leaning in to say, "I'm gonna need about tree fiddy."
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u/yobrefas 2h ago
Yeah, except in OP’s case, he was probably talking to a man with an AI photo for a pfp. Women who want to stay alive and have any dating history aren’t going to make a request or expectation that a guy makes a statement of where they are going and when they are meeting. But guys don’t have to think about safety in the same way (as frequently) so whoever is trolling OP didn’t stop to think about how abnormal this behavior/ask would be of an actual woman.
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u/ground__contro1 4h ago
“I know what I want - and that’s men who I have never even talked to before deciding I’m going to go out with them”
Girl is so far away from knowing the answer she doesn’t even know what question she’s asking herself
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u/No_Assignment_5012 3h ago
Is that really what we’re supposed to be doing? Throwing out random finalized plans to people on the internet?
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u/Debatebly 1h ago
OP, if you want to win discourse against someone like that, you block them at "Yes, but not with you."
They want confrontation. You gave it. There was nothing for you to win. Just frustration.
Block and move on. That girl then gets to realize you have better shit to do with your time than deal with her.
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u/FionaBear1 4h ago
I got unmatched bc I fell asleep at 2 am 🙁 deleted the whole thing 2-3 weeks later
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u/SagaciousElan 1h ago
She knows what she wants and what she wants is a free dinner.
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u/xSonicspeedx2 4h ago
Andrea apparently wants to date a serial killer.
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u/Jakesmonkeybiz 4h ago
You, me, alone, abandoned shipping dock, 3:00 am, don’t be late 😘
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u/No_Consequence7064 1h ago
“I just know what I want”.
Narrator: That person has no fucking clue what is going on let alone what they want.
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u/Lily-Syd 4h ago
Talked with my boyfriend through text message for a month before we decided to go on our first date. We've been together for a year now. If you're looking for a long term relationship I think it's incredibly weird to not get to know them a bit through messages before going on a date/meeting in person.
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u/Pawly519 4h ago
And these people wonder why they are single.
How on earth are you supposed to know that she wants you to ask her out right away on the first message? Most girls world be weirded out by that.
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u/Impossible_Royal_302 4h ago edited 2h ago
Who are these psychotic people?
It is especially nuts coming from women. 90% of women out there are against toxic behavior like being a controlling asshole to women, but there’s 10% of them that seem to revel in it. Gross.
Edited: some commenters took exception to my use of the term “toxic masculinity” to denote toxic behavior, so I edited for clarity.
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u/August_tho 4h ago
These types of women aren't actually on the apps to date, they just want to stroke their ego by treating dudes like beggars.
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u/cyanraichu 4h ago
That's unhinged lol. Asking about plans for the weekend is so clearly a setup for making said plans.
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u/pogulup 3h ago
WTF is up with her picture? Is it just heavily filtered? Maybe AI?
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u/peahnus-ebjoyer 1h ago
You should be thankful that these braindead animals reveal themselves so swiftly.
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u/Izhachok 2h ago
Idk how we’ve convinced so many young women that “knowing our worth” means dating only the most domineering men who don’t let us make a single decision for ourselves.
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u/HolidayDoctor1027 2h ago
Too many romance novels? They’re going to be disappointed too that those domineering men also don’t turn into werewolves.
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u/Fancy_Awareness6896 1h ago
There are a few "assholes with a heart of gold" out there, but it turns out that most are just regular assholes. And the "ice king who melts just for you" is also far more likely to just be emotionally unavailable.
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u/Snerkbot7000 3h ago
Oh it's subtext.
I like anime (I am so bored)
Then she negs (I am accepting counteroffers, what do you have?)
Communication was easier when we were just birds.
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u/pordraet 4h ago
I’ve chartered a private jet to Milan and planned a month and a half excursion across Europe for us my dear, have your bags packed by noon
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u/PowermanFriendship 4h ago
This seems like bot activity just to keep you on the platform. Like the responses are totally disconnected from reality.
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u/Neither-Activity-566 1h ago
"I know what I want. For a man to randomly tell me what to do and where to go, before we've even said hi." Oooookay. Crazy pants.
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u/kit-sjoberg 4h ago
Later, to her friends: “I don’t understand why I’m not getting anywhere on these apps!”
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u/Federal-Ad6391 3h ago
Being alone is more comforting than being accompanied by someone like this. Dodged a bullet OP😭
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u/Maela_Ithring 2h ago
These types just get off on rejecting men. That's it. That's literally all it is: an ego stroke for them.
Dating apps attract shitty people with no personality. Who'd a thunk?
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u/bannedforeatingababy 4h ago edited 4h ago
She's doing too much. I can't stand how so many people think they need to play some kind of character on the initial conversation and try to get you to do this weird, preformative back and forth thing with them. Even worse when it extends into the first few dates and you can just tell they're not actually being themselves. It feels like disingenuous hookup behaviour when people do this shit, then it winds down they find out they're not actually compatible. I hate it.
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u/new-machine 4h ago
I think you did the right thing by working to read the room and getting to know a person before making plans. It’s a safer method for both parties.
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u/Groovychick1978 3h ago
Please do not start to think that that's even close to normal. Hopefully, someone closer to her can let her know how ridiculous she is.
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u/Gaming_Nomad 2h ago
As frustrating as this is, OP, she did you a favour by screening herself out. She immediately showed herself to be shallow and manipulative and, in all likelihood, boring. She was worried about running out of things to talk about on the app and wanted to establish chemistry in person while getting a free meal ticket.
In my experience chemistry is usually obvious even by text and worthwhile people will reciprocate your effort; finding someone you're compatible with will feel like picking up a conversation with the best friend you never knew you had. That's how I found my fiancee and we've been together for almost two years now. We met on Hinge and within two weeks of dating we were pretty much inseparable.
You will find your person too. You might find that you're compatible with multiple people at roughly the same time, which then leads to the anxiety of deciding who you like more and not wanting to hurt someone else's feelings.
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u/KuromanKuro 2h ago
She doesn’t want an assertive planner, she wants offers from people that will give her the most. Either an expensive dinner or some sort of experience you’ll give her. Greedy shit. You’re lucky to figure it out before you wasted any time or money on them.
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u/BeaverCleaver91 3h ago
the funny part is i bet 100 to 1 she has no fucking clue what she wants. she's just trying out that "boss babe" attitude online. she'll grow up someday.
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u/sparrow_64 4h ago
People like this fascinate me because it’s a masquerade of “I want someone whos assertive and knows what they want” when what they really want is someone who will completely overlook your boundaries, attention, wants, and time if this was genuinely the opener she was looking for. Jesus.
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u/Eris_Exhausted 4h ago
Seeing stuff like this makes me thankful that so far the worst dating app experience I've had is just being ghosted a lot
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u/No_Storm1731 3h ago
I prefer when someone makes a plan with me right away rather than the back and forth, and I think this is too much
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u/Lamberly 3h ago
Anyone else planning to stay with their current partner forever just so they don't have to deal with this shit?
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u/SAxoR1337 2h ago
She knows what she wants = she wants to exploit desperate guys for free food and experiences* (in this scenario)
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u/Ocean-in-Motion 1h ago
She straight up looks like she’s fake af and uses way too many filters. Bullet dodged my friend.
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u/NyantlessNyanslaught 2h ago
I genuinely think platforms should start banning users for rudeness like this.
This happens to both genders too btw— Last time I was single I nearly deleted Tinder because of how many men were randomly mean to me on the app for absolutely no reason at all. I knew probably none of those men would get banned if I reported them, or I couldn’t report them because the unmatched shortly after they said degrading things.
If people can’t log onto these apps without immediately being met with rudeness, it’s a bad user experience.
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u/RagingHolly 4h ago
Guy friend of a few years kept pestering me for a dinner date, so I finally agreed.
We get there and everything is fine until the server comes to take our order.
Friend: "I'll have blah blah blah, and she'll have..."
I cut him off saying I'll order my own food. He was trying to order an entrée for me, that I didn't want.
Server: 😬 "I'll give you guys a minute." Walks away
Then it turned into an argument about that's how dates work. I just got up and left lol.
We're still friends but I would never date that fucker.
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u/asschoe 4h ago
She may know what she wants but she sure needs work on communicating it. Make a reservation at magic castle if you want someone to read your mind.
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u/Ok_Monk_5584 3h ago
Yeah this is insane.
This being said, I wonder if this is a symptom of dating-app burnout?
I can see that in 3 years of using dating apps, first 2 years I have favoured having around a week or so of text exchange with a guy before agreeing to a date, as a pre-screening process. But this past year I have realised I have kind of a burnout from this and now I get impatient if he doesn't suggest a date after 2-3 days of chatting and I either suggest one myself or jokingly nudge him to do it.
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u/Schlong-Mahjong 3h ago
This has such ‘you need to start the conversation but if you open with a boring ‘hi, how are you’ I’m unmatching you’ energy. Oh I’m sorry, I guess regular conversation and etiquette is considered boring nowadays?
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u/echoshatter 2h ago
I'd send one final message: "Thank you for explaining so much about who you are with so few words. Saved us both a lot of time. Toodles."
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u/kabooozie 2h ago
It’s very “I am the main character” energy. It’s like she thinks she’s the main character in a tv show and the writers gave her a really snippy “you go girl” comeback that everyone in the live studio audience cheered for
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u/Legitimate-Log-6542 4h ago
She’s for the streets. You would’ve spent your entire time with her trying to read her mind
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u/AlphawolfAJ 4h ago
At least she let you know right away that she’s not worth your time.