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u/nocowardpath Streak: 1 3h ago

racism in queer spaces is a real thing and anyone immediately assuming this is some kind of fed post and not a real legitimate complaint needs to think about why they're so quick to dismiss this tbh

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u/dinodare Transfemme (She/All) 2h ago

Because this sub is full of white fragility and it shows every time the topic comes up.

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u/ReminaBlueSFW Streak: 1 2h ago

They downvoting u cause they hate that ur right😭

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u/Chrome_X_of_Hyrule Bear ː] 1h ago

Thankfully they're no longer down voted but yeah a lot of online queer spaces are so white. So many white queer people think they understand racism because they understand anti-queer bigotry and therefore they think they don't have any racist tendencies, but often they do.

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u/ExtremelyOnlineTM 42m ago

Proving that they don't actually understand queer oppression.

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u/AutisticPenguin2 20m ago

Had a white queer person explain to me that she absolutely wasn't being racist, because she used logic and determined that there was nothing racist about what she'd said.

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u/ReminaBlueSFW Streak: 1 3h ago

Psst. Its because 50% of the trans community is fucking racist😭

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u/Anusgrapes 3h ago

I would hope it's not 50%. I mean God damn that's a high number. I don't think I've ever checked.

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u/PsychoCyan DM for curly haircare guide - Streak: 139 2h ago

It's easy to think that "most people aren't racist" if the image in your mind of a racist is cartoonishly evil. The same applies to homophobia, sexism, transphobia, etc. The thing is that people who are otherwise "good" on the basics (i.e. they don't consider themselves white supremacist and if asked would say that they believe that black people are equal to white people, etc) can, and often do, still have racial biases. We live in a white supremacist society, no one is escaping unscathed. Those things that don't appear cartoonishly obvious still mean someone has racist biases or is outright racist.

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u/Tlaquatlatoa Hyenagirl :3 Interim Pissposter | She/Her - Streak: 15 2h ago

People who arent a target for it underestimate how high that number is for people in general to begin with

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u/A_Punk_Girl_Learning 🎶 Bottoms and tops, we all hate cops 🎵 2h ago

So, in Australia a couple of years ago 60% of our nation voted against our First Nations people having a voice in parliament.

No reason. The indigenous representatives wouldn't have had a vote necessarily. They just would have had an opportunity to voice their concerns or approval about any policies or legislation which may have been presented to parliament.

60% of Australians were too racist to let that happen and since trans people are just people I just kind of assume that around 60% of trans people in Australia are racist too.

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u/NeptunePancakes Streak: 1 1h ago edited 1h ago

the last paragraph is entirely illogical not gonna lie, no reason to believe trans people are politically normally distributed

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u/A_Punk_Girl_Learning 🎶 Bottoms and tops, we all hate cops 🎵 1h ago

How so? I've literally had Australian trans people complain to me that they hate that trans rights are a left-wing issue because they disagree with all other left-wing points.

Admittedly, those people were fucking idiots and it's probably not a 1:1 equal distribution of racism between trans and cis people but you've got people of colour talking about how regularly they encounter racism within our community and I tend to believe them.

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u/NeptunePancakes Streak: 1 1h ago

first paragraph is anecdotal evidence cause that’s affected by the area you encountered those ppl in, u can’t extrapolate it to the entirety of Australia.

I do agree with the second paragraph though, I didn’t mean to say it’s not a serve problem or a specific problem with trans people. Moreover I just think the support for your argument was kind of circumstantial cause politics within groups change things a lot. (The winner of the presidential race in 2024 was Trump, but that doesn’t mean he had support from black women, who voted over 80% for Harris)

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u/A_Punk_Girl_Learning 🎶 Bottoms and tops, we all hate cops 🎵 1h ago

I mean, my personal experience as a white trans person who gets to hear the shit people think they can say when PoC aren't around aligns with the experience of trans PoC who are subjected to that kind of abuse and that aligns with racist policies which are instituted where I live.

It doesn't seem a massive stretch to recognise a pattern there.

As I said, it's probably not 1:1 and I'm probably being a bit pessimistic about rates of racism within our community but there's a rather disappointing amount of evidence that it exists.

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u/NeptunePancakes Streak: 1 1h ago

very true, it does suck how much racism happens when people are in a “safe space” as if they don’t have an obligation to make safe for everyone else 😭

i do wonder if there’s any statistical research on the phenomenon in relation to your third paragraph, I’d be interested to know the exact number. although it’s definitely not necessary to address how big of a problem it is cause all you have to do to see it is go to a white queer space.

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u/NeptunePancakes Streak: 1 1h ago

me to the white trans woman when she asks where the racism in the queer community is coming from

(this not to say all white trans women are racist or as a group are the source of the problem, I’ve just met some people who are very much in the precontemplation stage of addressing their ethnocentrism problem)

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u/kikiacab 2h ago

Why are you instigating this infighting nonsense? Racism isn’t being tolerated here why are you acting like it is?

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u/ChknBom205 I know who i am! She/They 2h ago

50% of the online trans community is racist, and that's 4tran

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u/Neokon Orange Flavored Gender Fluid 2h ago

Do we have an actual source for these numbers or are we just throwing them out and seeing what sticks?

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u/Apollo989 2h ago

Hey no one here hates 4tran than me. Seriously check my post history lately but we don't get to blame our flaws in them

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u/ChknBom205 I know who i am! She/They 2h ago

I have literally never found a post by a racist transfem except from 4tran, or 4tranners, I'd like to see a post proving that it's not just the people on 4tran leaking into trans subs.

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u/Tlaquatlatoa Hyenagirl :3 Interim Pissposter | She/Her - Streak: 15 2h ago

No you are not going to fucking do this. I'm not gonna fuck around with a 4tran space to begin with cause im mexican I know better than to do that, but you dont get to push all responsibility and absolve all trans folks of racism like this.

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u/Gubekochi _ 2h ago

That's like intersectionality 101.

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u/ReminaBlueSFW Streak: 1 2h ago

A class that is constantly failed across every corner of the internet

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u/Gubekochi _ 1h ago edited 1h ago

Yeah. It's easy to let your main concern eclipse lived reality that isn't yours if you are not inclined toward introspection and/or empathy. I know that sometimes class reductionism can act as a siren song to me. But despite class struggle being an important issue, not everything boils down only to class.

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u/dinodare Transfemme (She/All) 2h ago

We'd solve a lot of issues if white fragility was an equally bannable offense as explicit racism.

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u/frisk85 Streak: 3 2h ago

People calling this fed or some other bs as if queer online spaces ain't so racist ther3s a meme about it

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u/Legatharr 3h ago

I think I agree. I think you mean "passing as cishet", not "passing as white", but the post is ambiguous

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u/ReminaBlueSFW Streak: 1 3h ago

I mean passing as cishet. Im stealth

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u/Legatharr 3h ago

Yeah I agree with the post

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u/CptnRaptor 3h ago edited 3h ago

What is this, babies' first intersectionality class?

It's not the oppression Olympics, because there's no placing points of oppression on a graph in this nitty-gritty area. Sure, you can say that being black is a disadvantage in our society, and you can say that being trans is a disadvantage in our society, you might even be able to say which is more of a disadvantage in isolation, but you can't say which is the worse of any number of combinations of empowered/oppressed demographics with very few exceptions (e.g. I'm bi, but I'm in a perceptively het relationship, I'm white, and I'm a guy, I'm able bodied and despite coming from the mucky bottom I have a good job and a mortgage. I'm not even in the stands at these Olympics)

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u/Tlaquatlatoa Hyenagirl :3 Interim Pissposter | She/Her - Streak: 15 3h ago

We need to keep having baby's first intersectionality class cause people keep flunking out of it

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u/ReminaBlueSFW Streak: 1 3h ago

Mind you these are open notes tests

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u/Apollo989 2h ago

Well even an open note test is hard when you make no effort to comprehend the material

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u/BrandySparkles 2h ago

I swear that intersectionality was created by the people in charge to keep leftists endlessly debating race theory rather than actually doing something about the psycho billionaire owner class.

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u/CptnRaptor 2h ago

Possibly, but wealth/class is also a metric in intersectional theory, it's pretty much the only one that historically affected me, with its orbital characteristics (such as accent and outward values associated with being from the capital-challenged) being major hurdles for getting into a decent job or university.

If there's one thing that leftists should agree on (rare as rocking-horse manure, that) it's that economic privilege (or lack thereof) is the great unifier. Tankies will ignore the needs of trans folks or women or ethnic minorities due to a fanatical focus on economic inequality, and that's a problem, but they have a point. It's just unfortunate that things like overthrowing the ruling class to make way for a more sustainable and equitable society have to be pushed aside for more pressing issues such as trans healthcare and breaking down systems of racism within political structures like the police. Great long term goal, not practical to those alive today.

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u/DarthJackie2021 3h ago

I wonder if the discourse around "privilege" has done more harm than good for oppressed demographics. It seems to always devolve into infighting over oppression olympics.

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u/forestwolf42 1h ago

I feel like a lot of things get really stupid when they escape academia. The distinction between systemic racism and personal prejudice is really important as an example, but a lot of conversation around it devolve into incredibly stupid arguments immediately.

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u/NinjaJim6969 still mad that stupid asshole rabbit cracked my egg 3h ago edited 1h ago

Boy I sure do love how many infighting posts show up around totally innocuous unrelated events like elections

E: i must just be too off twitter to have encountered anyone like who op is complaining about

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u/Jolly-Statement7215 2h ago

> it’s literally just about racism

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u/PsychoCyan DM for curly haircare guide - Streak: 139 2h ago

Istg yall will call anything that makes you mildly uncomfortable "infighting" without a second goddamn thought

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u/Tlaquatlatoa Hyenagirl :3 Interim Pissposter | She/Her - Streak: 15 2h ago

Love how nonwhite folks just have to sit pretty and never complain about our treatment or perception or else we're federal agents to you. Only valid brown folks here to you are doormats.

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u/Apollo989 2h ago

I kind of want to insert the MLK quote about white moderates but as a white girl I also feel like I should keep quiet and listen?

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u/Tlaquatlatoa Hyenagirl :3 Interim Pissposter | She/Her - Streak: 15 2h ago

I think it's just bad form to use that, personally. Like it aint mine to throw around, mexican, and a lotta people latch onto the wrong thing about it or think theyre in the good nonracist category of people already so it cant be about them and they have nothing to learn from it. I'd just rather say directly what I mean.

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u/ReminaBlueSFW Streak: 1 3h ago

White privelege is so loud yall think racism isnt a serious issue

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u/thecelibite Streak: 12 3h ago

Louder for the people in the back, queen! Drown em out and spread the word!

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u/NinjaJim6969 still mad that stupid asshole rabbit cracked my egg 41m ago

Yeah, mostly in that strangers see no reason to say this shit to me and I talk to like 5 people total, none of whom say the kind of ridiculous shit it sounds like you have to put up with

Literally never spoken with a real human being who thought that being queer meant we didn't benefit from white privilege

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u/dinodare Transfemme (She/All) 2h ago

It isn't infighting to say "white queer people have white privilege." Being trans does not make you less white than a cishet white person, you still benefit from white supremacy at the expense of poc if you are white.

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u/NinjaJim6969 still mad that stupid asshole rabbit cracked my egg 59m ago

I've literally never conversed with someone who thought otherwise, but I curate the people I'm close to very heavily

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u/Prestigious_Emu144 2h ago edited 2h ago

Jesus Christ

Whoever is using the term “passing privilege” (edit: like this) in the first place is already probably a horrible person to be around, even without the blatant racism.

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u/Tlaquatlatoa Hyenagirl :3 Interim Pissposter | She/Her - Streak: 15 2h ago

I mean passing privilege obviously exists. I look visibly queer, and not even like a whole lot compared to other folks mid transition. When i get groceries there's a better chance than not im going to be accosted for that, get stares because of it, and I gotta avoid smaller roads with less eyes on em especially at night or risk who fucking knows what.

Someone who just looks cis isnt going to get that for looking cis. They might get some of that for other reasons obviously, but not because they look cis. Is that not privilege? If it isnt how is it not?

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u/Prestigious_Emu144 2h ago

I should clarify, I don’t think it’s bad to use that term in any context (I worded my comment very badly, sorry), obviously if you pass you’d have a way easier time in society than if you didn’t, but in the context of using it against people like in OP’s example, it’s pretty horrible and feels like something a miserable 4tran user would say to put other trans people down.

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u/underherembrace 2h ago

What's wrong with the term passing privilege? I have a ton of privilege, and passing is absolutely a major type of privilege I have that other trans people often do not.

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u/treelorf 2h ago

Passing privilege is like… very real? I am quite noticeably treated differently on days when I’m strongly passing vs on days when I am pretty clockable. Passing privilege and pretty privelage are genuinely both incredibly impactful on your lived experience.

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u/SomeSayCosmic some kind of monarch 3h ago

waiting for all the fuckass "...what?" comments

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u/trying_my_hardest_22 2h ago

Queer people being racist and poc being whatever-obic is so stupid. Weve got alot of the same issues, and would do alot better to take care of each other.

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u/BrandySparkles 3h ago

Sorry only class war for me please.

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u/Apollo989 2h ago

No war but the class war doesn't mean we can ignore racism or other social ills. The only way the working class can unite is if we confront those issues. I'm not saying any of us are the Vanguard, but if the Vanguard Party is meant to be "practically the most advanced and resolute section of the working-class" then the LEAST we can do is call out racism in our ranks.

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u/Aggravating_Hurry530 Transfem They/She 2h ago

"Erm lets not talk about race, only class war for me"

Meanwhile the most successful Marxist project in the history of the US:

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u/NeptunePancakes Streak: 1 1h ago

racism problems won’t just magically go away if the white working class took power

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u/BuhYDoh 2h ago

I always have an interesting time with posts like these because I'm openly queer and cis but I'm also Mexican so I somehow fall under neither of the sides this post is pitting against eachother.

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u/SpireSwagon 1h ago

These are both valid and true and incredibly obvious and I really wish we could get over this hill of endless infighting

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u/ScottybirdCorvus Resident Cis Guy 3h ago edited 1h ago

We’re reaching levels of infighting I didn’t think possible

Edit: Leaving the comments up as a bad example. I don’t even remember what I was trying to say, all I can see is what y’all are reading now. Yikes. I’m an asshole.

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u/ReminaBlueSFW Streak: 1 3h ago

Maybe just dont be racist

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u/ScottybirdCorvus Resident Cis Guy 2h ago edited 1h ago

Friend, my whole point is it shouldn’t matter what damn race we all are, why the hell we fightin’? It just sounds like everybody’s finding excuses to get mad at each other, and for what? Is it helping?

Edit: Look, I’ll be the first to admit that I’m an outsider here, so maybe I don’t know what the hell is going on for y’all and I’m being a stupid motherfucker. If that’s the case, then any enmity I’ve earned is well deserved. I’m sorry for any hurt I caused, unintended or not.

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u/dinodare Transfemme (She/All) 2h ago

You're able to comment things like this and yet the moderators on this subreddit told me that they were going to learn how to crack down on more implicit forms of racism.

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u/ScottybirdCorvus Resident Cis Guy 2h ago

I’m genuinely confused. What did I say that was racist? I’ve been combing my comment over and over trying to figure it out. Help me out?

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u/PsychoCyan DM for curly haircare guide - Streak: 139 1h ago

Probably the part where you dismissed discussion of privilege and racism within our (not your, as you also admitted) community as "infighting."

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u/ScottybirdCorvus Resident Cis Guy 1h ago

I see. Yeah, that was definitely the wrong way about it.

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u/Aggravating_Hurry530 Transfem They/She 1h ago

You saw a post about racism and made a comment saying basically to shut up about it. 

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u/ScottybirdCorvus Resident Cis Guy 1h ago

That… was not at all how I meant it. Now that you’ve said it, though, I can’t read it any other way. Damn.

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u/Ash_an_bun 3h ago

This whole discourse is a CIA op.

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u/Jolly-Statement7215 2h ago

Things I don’t like are cia

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u/Tlaquatlatoa Hyenagirl :3 Interim Pissposter | She/Her - Streak: 15 2h ago

bedtime is cia

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u/nocowardpath Streak: 1 3h ago

Huh? White people being racist in queer spaces and going "you calling out my racism is actually [whatever flavor of homophobia/transphobia applies to them]!!!!" is a huge and very real problem.

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u/Ash_an_bun 3h ago

Cut them off and work towards liberation without them. They are an obstacle to be moved around; not engaged with and conquered.

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u/ReminaBlueSFW Streak: 1 3h ago

I think racists deserve to know they arent people and shouldnt be treated as the rest of us

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u/Ash_an_bun 3h ago

Alright, so long as you know what you're getting out of it, I suppose. You've limited time, you choose how you spend it. You get something out of it that I don't see. I hope it satisfies you. Have a good night.

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u/nocowardpath Streak: 1 3h ago

"Stop racism by shutting up about racism" ?????

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u/ReminaBlueSFW Streak: 1 3h ago

Thats exactly what they said

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u/HiroProtagonest King of Snow - Streak: 21 3h ago

Unfortunately the mods of this sub banned the last black trans woman who tried to get these discussions going because she was "causing strife."

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u/Ash_an_bun 3h ago

Yup, verbatim.

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u/HiroProtagonest King of Snow - Streak: 21 3h ago edited 3h ago

How do you cut them off if you immediately write off any mention of racism as "psyop to be ignored" and never give anyone room to talk about racism in your community. Y'know what, you're sorta right, cuz I shouldn't even be giving you this much benefit for discussion, I should just tell you you're being racist.

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u/Ash_an_bun 3h ago

Alright then. Have a good evening.

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u/Jolly-Statement7215 2h ago

Grrr another passer making me jealous 😡/j

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u/[deleted] 3h ago

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u/HiroProtagonest King of Snow - Streak: 21 2h ago

That's like saying DEI is "some cia infighting bullshit" because how many non-white people do you see posting selfies in this sub? Sorry, bringing that shit up ain't psyop.

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u/PsychoCyan DM for curly haircare guide - Streak: 139 2h ago

Like seriously there is a fucking button at the top of the sub (on mobile) you can click to see exactly this shit

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u/MediumSatisfaction1 2h ago

i aint ever seen the first argument. who are these idiots and where do they spawn from??

(also this 2019 ass meme lmfao)

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u/lordbuckethethird if I stop kissing boys the voices get loud 2h ago

Damn the generals ordered another charge through no man’s land huh?