You know what though, give yourselves credit on this type of behavior. Your behavior is the part you can control. That’s where you can either do your best to stop, or add to the bigger problem.
You can’t control them finding a friend group that condones it. And I’ve never personally heard women gripe about the ones that try the way you guys are trying. There’s no expectation that it 100% solves the problem. There will always be violent creeps. The best we can aim for is the parts we can control.
You two are the things we hope for; men that are willing to do whatever is in their power, in that moment, to put an end to the stuff that contributes to the problem.
You win, you didn’t lose. There’s a bunch of small wins like that, and each one counts as a drop. It takes trillions of droplets to create a tsunami. If more men do what you two do, then soon there will be very few groups of men for guys insisting to stay like that to hang around. They’ll isolate themselves and eventually die off. Then the remaining women, girls, boys and men will be able to live a more peaceful, safe existence.
The most illuminating takeaway here is that the misogynist has a wife who makes more than him, owns the house, and puts up with his misogyny. The "good guy" is third wheeling (and active on Reddit).
There's a study that shows that male "extreme misogynists" have higher female sexual partners, with the least "extreme misogynists" at 0 sexual partners.
Also, while male sexual activity has declined to a minority. Female sexual activity has remained constant. This means that women are picking the same men.
When women talk about the men they see, they describe women-haters and abusers of all sorts. Unless they're currently with a long-term, who they'll describe in a positive light.
Something is not adding up here.
More and more, it is looking like women ignore good men. And only hyper fixate and choose bad men until they give up.
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u/BurntTFOuttaHere 3d ago
You know what though, give yourselves credit on this type of behavior. Your behavior is the part you can control. That’s where you can either do your best to stop, or add to the bigger problem.
You can’t control them finding a friend group that condones it. And I’ve never personally heard women gripe about the ones that try the way you guys are trying. There’s no expectation that it 100% solves the problem. There will always be violent creeps. The best we can aim for is the parts we can control.
You two are the things we hope for; men that are willing to do whatever is in their power, in that moment, to put an end to the stuff that contributes to the problem.
You win, you didn’t lose. There’s a bunch of small wins like that, and each one counts as a drop. It takes trillions of droplets to create a tsunami. If more men do what you two do, then soon there will be very few groups of men for guys insisting to stay like that to hang around. They’ll isolate themselves and eventually die off. Then the remaining women, girls, boys and men will be able to live a more peaceful, safe existence.