100% honest perspective needed from Indian males aged 30-30+

I’ve had hemorrhoid surgery before. But still have persistent hemorrhoid (doesn’t bleed, but is painful lump so discomfort is always there) that’s mostly not gonna go away. Or may be get worse cause of future pregnancy or due to ageing (might bleed in future due to ageing or pregnancy ) or might need second surgery after pregnancy

Would it be turn off for a guy…to the point that he won’t marry her soley cause of this reason?
Be it love marriage or arrange marriage.

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CW: abuse, rape/sexual assault, stalking, death

My ex (M23) and me (F20) dated for around 3 years after meeting on Discord 6 years ago and we had a REALLY nasty breakup.

Last year I found out he died in an accident. I cried a lot when I found out because despite everything that happened between us, I felt really guilty about how mean I had become towards him towards the end. I was trying to get him to stop chasing me because I wanted to move on, while he was literally dating someone else and trying to get me back at that time.

While we were dating he would ditch me to go hang out with this girl and apparently" help"her through her breakup, while also lying to me about her. Later I found out that he had apparently been telling HER that I physically abused him and beat him and shit, basically trying to get her sympathy while trying to get with her.

After we broke up, his stalking also got to a point where I was genuinely stressed. He was literally dating someone else and still wouldn't leave me alone, so I eventually contacted his parents and basically told them "please make your son stop doing this because I really don't want to involve the law" 😭. This man then apparently went around his college telling people that I had filed some random lawsuit against him just to get revenge on him. Like??? I contacted his parents specifically because I DIDN'T want to involve the law 😭 how did that become "she filed a lawsuit for revenge"??

The reason I finally left him was also pretty fucked up. I had told him that I was abused as a kid, and at one point I saw my rapist again and completely panicked. His response was basically telling me to stop overreacting and get over it myself. He even doubled down and said he would have felt worse if it had happened to his sister or cousin instead of me. That was basically the point where I was done.

Then a few months after his death I started finding out that he had apparently lied about basically EVERYTHING about himself for YEARS. His age, his origins, his religion. He told me he was Assamese/Bhutanese mixed and originally was Odia, Also made up a story about how he integrated from Bhutan to here n how his mum left him behind . The pictures of his "parents" he showed me were actually his best friend's parents. He used to tell me his parents don't send him money and i used to buy even his body wash and shampoo for him ☠️ they used to send him more than anything my family could afford yet he acted like he was broken. And apparently he had even told people in his college I was Punjabi. I'm literally Bihari 😭 where did Punjabi even come from??

Then there's the whole thing about him telling people I abused him. I am 4'11 I don't even have the balls to stand up to my teachers or bully throughout school or college anyone who knows me irl knows I hate violence and don't even raise voice at people. Apparently he was telling people I would beat him and burn him with cigarettes and shit, i started smoking after the break-up so I don't know where it came from ,all that was basically to get sympathy from this girl and make himself look like the victim.

And the fucked up thing is that after he died I spent months feeling guilty. I kept thinking about how I treated him, how mean I was, how I could have handled the breakup differently and wondering if I should have been kinder because he was dead and I couldn't take anything back.

But then I started finding out all this shit and now I genuinely don't know how I'm supposed to feel about him.There was a point in my life where i loved him sm that i wanted to marry him

And there's one last thing that makes the whole situation even more fucked up. He had lied about SO much that even our online friends had a hard time believing that he had actually died. There was genuinely a point where even I didn't fully believe it. Because when someone has lied about their age, family, background, relationships and basically their entire identity, finding out they're dead almost feels like another lie.

Eventually I had to come to terms with it. I was in denial for a while, but eventually I accepted that he really was dead.

And that's what fucks with my head the most. I still cried when he died. I still feel sad that he's dead. But I'm also finding out that the person I spent years with apparently lied about huge parts of his life and was telling people horrible things about me behind my back.

So I don't even know if I'm grieving him, grieving the person I thought he was, feeling guilty about how things ended, or all three.

I don't hate him, but I also can't pretend he was some innocent person just because he's dead.

I genuinely don't know how you're supposed to grieve someone when, after they're gone, you keep finding out that so much of what you knew about them wasn't even real.

TL;DR: My ex died after a toxic breakup involving stalking, manipulation and lies about me.

I initially felt guilty and grieved him, but after his death I found out he had apparently lied about huge parts of his life.

Now I don't know if I'm grieving him, the person I thought he was, my guilt, or all three.

I (23F) and my boyfriend (24M) are in an LDR. We don't talk a lot normally either. Most of our conversations are pretty basic, like what are you doing? Have you eaten? how are you? etc.

A few days ago, he seemed really stressed because of work, and he sent me this:

“I am mentally fucked up and mereko genuinely mental space chaahiye since yesterday bahar nikalna band kar diya hu.

Ghar pe reh ke kaam karunga abhi.

Agar message na karu toh mt samjhna ki baat krne ka mann nahi hai isliye aisa kr raha hu.

I am genuinely isolating myself to figure out my life.”

He also told me that he isn't asking for a break or breakup and that he is genuinely isolating himself to figure things out.

I'm confused about how I should behave right now.

Should I take his message literally and give him space until he reaches out? Or should I still text him occasionally to check on him?

My concern is that if I message him and he doesn't respond properly, I'll feel like I'm bothering him. But if I don't message him at all, I worry that he'll think I don't care.

Also, because we already don't talk that much normally, I'm finding it difficult to understand whether his lack of initiating conversation right now is simply because he needs space or whether he doesn't feel like talking to me specifically.

For people who have been in similar situations, what would you do? How much space would you give someone who has explicitly said they're isolating themselves?

As the title suggests, we have been friends for around 1-1.5 years, know her since my last job. We became very good friends eventually. She had to shift to Bangalore due to her job last year. But idk man i get this feeling, she takes the initiative to call me almost daily, she initiates the convo, shares me very intimate “reels”, but i still remember she told me indirectly we’re friends, when i indirectly tried to express my feelings( yk just the tip).

Fast forward to this month, she wants to go to a trip with me only( shes single) & here i am, scratching my head to figure out whats going on. Hell, she even said at one point she’ll pay for me. ( maybe due to the fact i helped her financially at times or idk man, im loosing my hair)

Please help me understand this situation.

I have been dating a wonderful girl and now there is familial pressure from both sides to get married. I think my girlfriend and I have really good compatibility in many ways, specifically emotional and mental compatibility (which is rare for me).

However, I am scared of marriage. If I were to identify why:

• I love my life currently. As a bachelor with a girlfriend my lifestyle is perfect: good balance of independent living and being with my girlfriend. After marriage this will be disrupted (moving cities, accommodating her lifestyle too, etc.), which may not be better than my current lifestyle.
• I am in general scared of commitment. Now don't get me wrong, I mean I am only dating this one girl and will keep only dating her, but marriage is very hard to reverse, it's practically permanent. I like this girl at 29, but will I like her at 39? Probably but what if no? I am with her for life. And by the way, this is not just particularly for this girl, it applies marrying any girl.

It seems marriage is inevitable if this relationship must continue (which I want it to!), but I am still scared of the concept of being tied down and having my lifestyle change so much.

So my mother is not talking to me and Im feeling like dk what to say. Nowadays only one thought comes in my mind why even I was born? Yea it used to come in childhood but adulting is hard. So one of my cousin got selected in an exam, I also gave it but I couldn’t make it. so when I got this news I obviously hide from family, but its impossible to hide obviously right😭 now she is not talking to me and Im feeling not good. Idk what I should do in my career. Should I move to bangalore where many opportunities are. My bckg is also non tech so it’s difficult for me to find any job. But I can do social media manager or some design thing bc already doing internship(unpaid). Give me suggestions Its 8:48 AM and as I wake up I think about this. When I sleep I think about this. In this age I should think of some cute stuff before sleeping and after waking up but well here we are anyways. Looking forward to connect mindful souls for some positivity around me.

My boyfriend moved abroad for further studies, and we’ve started doing long distance. I’m honestly unsure if we’ll be able to make it work.

For those who’ve been through something similar, did your relationship survive the distance, or did it eventually lead to a breakup?

Would really appreciate hearing your honest experiences — good or bad.

How do you love someone else ? If your first relationship ended on bad terms . I'm having difficulty loving someone else. Those traumas keep coming back. It's been more than 2 years I feel her life doesn't affect me anymore but some random triggers make me sad. I tried gym and invested time on hobbies but nothing works . I feel like even if I love someone it will be very different from what I was before

Loving him was an honour.
I don't think I can properly explain what it meant to have those feelings for him to anyone who wasn't inside my heart when it happened.
There was something so beautiful about loving him. Not because everything was perfect, or because we never hurt each other, but because for a while, he made ordinary life feel different. I loved the little things about him—the way he spoke, his moods, his softness when he felt safe, the things I slowly learned about him without even realising I was memorising them.
I loved having someone who was the first person I wanted to tell things to. Someone who could cross my mind in the middle of an ordinary day and suddenly make me smile. I loved knowing him in that quiet, intimate way that happens when you genuinely care about someone.
And I don't want the way things ended to make me ashamed of any of it.
I don't want to look back and think I was foolish for loving him so deeply. I wasn't. I was simply capable of feeling something enormous, and I think that is a beautiful thing.
Of course there are things I wish had been different. There are things I still struggle to understand, and moments when I wish I could have protected what we had from everything that eventually came between us.
But underneath all of that, there is still tenderness.
Because I remember how happy I was that he existed in my life.
I remember what it felt like to have my heart so full of someone.
And I don't want to erase that just because it hurts now.
Maybe some people are only meant to stay for a chapter, but that doesn't make the chapter any less meaningful. I got to know him, to care for him, and to feel something that changed me in ways I probably won't fully understand for a long time.
So I think I'll let myself be grateful for it.
Not for how it ended, but for the fact that, once upon a time, I had something worth feeling this deeply about.
And maybe that's enough. And maybe if god wills, our hearts will pull us together.

It's done guys. Her best friend abused me again, and she (my gf) did not take a stand for me, so I've finally walked away from that relationship. Let's gooo. I can finally sleep peacefully now

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Feeling unwanted in my marriage due to lack of intimacy

Hi everyone,

I've been married for five years (arranged marriage), and overall, I'm happy with my wife. We connect well in most areas, but one major aspect of our relationship has been a struggle—our sex life.

The difference in our libidos is significant. She rarely seems to feel the need for intimacy, even if months pass without it. On the other hand, I’d be content with once a week or even fortnightly. I’ve expressed my feelings to her multiple times, explaining that physical intimacy is important for me to feel connected and desired. She listens, understands, and acknowledges my feelings, but things haven’t really changed.

Most of the time, I have to initiate, and while she participates, I can sense that she’s not fully into it. Rarely do I feel genuine passion or desire from her side, which has made me feel unwanted over time.

Because of this emotional and physical void, I’ve found myself turning to adult content and fapping more frequently. But deep down, I know it’s not a real substitute for intimacy with a partner. Lately, I’ve even started noticing myself feeling drawn to other women—not because I want to cheat, but because I miss feeling desired and wanted. The thought of an extramarital affair has crossed my mind, but I know it’s not the right path for me. My values and love for my wife stop me from taking any such step, but I can’t ignore the emptiness I feel.

At this point, I don’t know how to navigate this situation. I love my wife, but due to this ongoing issue, I don’t feel as attracted to her as I once did. I want to work through this, but I feel stuck.

Has anyone been through something similar? How did you handle it? Any advice would be really appreciated.

Thanks.

My sister has been dating her boyfriend (27M) for 7 years, and honestly, I think she should leave him because of the way he treats her. Her boyfriend can be incredibly caring, but it always seems to come with conditions.

1. sister’s college is an hour from his house, so when she stays with him at his house on weekends, he takes amazing care of her (cooks for her, cleans for her, doesn't let her lift a finger, etc.) But he refuses to come to her hostel because he doesn’t like the 'vibe” of hostels and cramped rooms.

This became especially obvious when our brother died. My sister was in no state to travel an hour to his house, but he still didn’t come to her. His reasoning was that anything he did would upset her anyway, so there was no point. Instead, he told her that if she came to his house, he would take the BEST care of her and let her cry on him for as long as she needed.

1. He’s also pressuring her to marry him because apparently his “age of marriage is running out.” My sister hasn’t even finished her bachelor’s degree. She has no issue marrying young, but she asked him to get a job before she introduced him properly to our parents. He got ENRAGED and told her that if she couldn’t marry him at his lowest, then she didn’t deserve him at his best. Our parents already know he exists (they dont know that hes dating my sister) and dislike him because they think he’s completely useless for having no job

2. Another issue is how he reacts when my sister comes home for holidays. She studies in another state and comes home every vacation. His parents regularly go to their village, and because he can’t go with them due to his pets, he expects my sister to stay with him whenever their trips coincide with her holidays because he suffers from loneliness but she OBVIOUSLY cannot because

• our parents are strict so she has to have a solid reason why she cant come home
• SHE WANTS TO GO HOME

He's like she values her family more than him because of this. His reason is loneliness because he has no friends, hobbies, job, or much of a life outside of her, and somehow that has become HER responsibility. He genuinely believes that if your partner is lonely and you’re the only thing that can make them feel better, then you should always be there. He has already broken up with her 4–5 times over this kind of thing, including once while she was literally on a train. He blocked her everywhere and refused to speak to her until she gave in.

1. He’s also extremely insecure because his ex cheated on him, so everything my sister does gets scrutinized. Just last night, he came to me asking for validation because my sister posted a story showing off her outfit and pictures. He said she had apparently admitted she wanted compliments. When she was asked why she did that, she told him that she did send him her photos before putting up the story and also said that she told him that he never gives her attention. His response? He “doesn’t have time” because he has too much going on in his own life, and she should understand that he can’t always give her the attention she wants.

He has even told me himself that he cannot be happy for her simply because she is happy. He can only be happy for her if he is happy too. He also says he can’t do things just because they make her happy because that would go against his “principles.”

And the part that frustrates me the most is that my sister REALIZES all of this. Yet she still won’t leave him. Her biggest reason is that no guy is willing to be a househusband and that no one else will take such good care of her like he does. I feel like she’s confusing being taken care of with being treated well. I keep telling her she deserves better, but she genuinely believes this is the best she’ll ever get.

How do I make her see that she deserves more?

(I'm very sorry for the long post)

23F I’ve always been caught up in this dilemma of whether you should wait for love to enter in your life organically or should actively go out and put efforts to seek someone? Recently tried doing the second one and didn’t go down well but then i feel if i my only interactions are in workplace and gym then how can i find someone considering i don’t like anyone for there.

I know he probably doesn’t feel the same way. Maybe he likes me a little, maybe I’m just someone he keeps around as a backup. And honestly, I’m okay with that. I feel calm knowing he’s there when things go wrong or when I need to rant.

I’ve tried moving on. When he moved to another city, I tried cutting ties because I thought distance would make it easier. But neither of us could stay away. I tried meeting other people too, but I would still end up talking about him.

What hurts the most is when he talks about other girls or dates, especially when someone tries to set him up with another girl. I suddenly feel so vulnerable and think, why can’t I just stop feeling this way about him?

I don’t want to be jealous. I don’t want him to have this much power over my emotions. But I still love him, and somehow being around him feels like peace.

I know I probably need to detach. I just don’t know how to do that when I still feel safest with the same person I’m trying to move on from.

Has anyone been through this? How did you actually let go?

I had an online relationship with a girl I met on dating app. We talked for around 4–5 months but never met in person. She lived around 700 km away.

Things ended because of a caste difference. I'm from a lower caste and she's from an upper caste. She rejected the relationship because of it. I was extremely attached and it hurt me badly.

After that, we barely had contact for years. Then in March 2026, after almost 5 years, she suddenly started contacting me again, mostly on weekends.

She is currently in a relationship that has apparently lasted around 4 years. I don't know what happened in that relationship, but the timing made me wonder if something went wrong and she came back to me for attention or emotional support.

She wanted to keep me in her life as a friend, but she still didn't want to meet me offline and avoided giving clear answers to some serious questions I asked. That made me feel like I was being kept around as an option or backup.

I eventually declined the friendship because I don't want to stay emotionally attached to someone who doesn't actually choose me.

Now I'm honestly conflicted. A part of me wants to completely cut her off. Another part of me wants revenge — let her back in, treat her the way she treated me, and make her feel what I felt. She hurt me badly and made me cry at one point.

I know revenge probably isn't the healthiest option, but after everything that happened, I genuinely feel that way sometimes.

What would you do in my situation — completely cut her off, or keep the door open and see what she actually wants?

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This will be pretty huge as I'm gonna write my heart out today. Around feb I saw a girl in my college and I liked her from the first glance. I did some digging and found out she's dating someone else. Even after some more digging i found out that the guy she's dating is a complete incel. He used to scream and shout at her when things didn't go his way. Used to insult her in front of his friends etc. So I did the most difficult thing in my life which was to wait. I saw them together in college sitting together talking and I understood how Jim in The office felt. Anyways so she eventually broke up w him on 11th July. I found out and finally I thought to text her for the first time. I scored the highest gpa in our college in the 1st semester so everyone basically knew me by my name. We both followed each other on IG.

On 21st may replied on one of her stories and it struck a conversation.

It was only for a few mins. I texted her again on 23rd May. And this time we were in genuine flow state. We were texting till 5 in the morning. She mentioned that she noticed when I saw her stories even before I followed her on IG (public account). After this it was pretty established that I'm into her. But like we were texting and talking all day. She didn't know what I look like because I have 0 pictures of me on my Instagram. Random photos of my dog and parrot. And a video where I discussed the best chess game of my life(audio only). I don't think I'm smart or anything but my IQ score was 139 2 years ago. She was impressed by me or my brain wtv. And we were talking alot for the next 10 days. And in 10 days it was established that we are just meant to be together and she agreed to it. She started calling me baby and shit which I did too. She told me ki she's so astonished on how can someone be so nice and she's never been this happier in her life. Like she isn't even religious but she started thanking God because of me 😭😭.

Side Note - She lives w her mother. Single parent and divorced. She has no idea of her father or paternal family because they were toxic as fuck. When she broke up w this boy, she told her mom about it and mom told her to not get romantically involved with any other guy from now.

So finally we decided to go on a date. It was a fun cute date. I dropped her home.

But some distant cousin saw her on my bike. He immediately called her mom and told everything. When she returned home, she was yelled at and scolded.

That Night was probably the hardest night of my life. I didn't sleep for a single minute. I was trying to study but didn't study at all. I grabbed my phone at every notification just in hopes ki she will text me. But she didn't. Next morning she texted me and something felt off. Dopehar mei she texted me and told me that she feels very guilty on lying to her mother and wants to end things. That was probably the worst day of my life. The entire afternoon I felt like breaking down and crying. I called my friends we went over a walk. I told them everything.

For the next couple days, i actually begged her to give me a chance. I tried to convince her on text, on call. I wrote a 400 word essay about it bro. Nothing worked. We were still talking but way lesser. And idk I just fell so sad all the time. Eventually we stopped talking and she blocked me from both of her accounts.

I was very very sad. But like eventually I started to focus on my studies again. I was still missing her everyday. Checking out her IG everyday to see if she unblocked me. She actually removed everyone from her I'd except maybe 2-3 people. Then she added me again. Only on the main account. Texted me once. We had a conversation. After a few days she texted me again and we texted for a few mins. This happened again. She joined a club in college where im active. We started talking again. Like alot. All day. Even in that groups club she keeps mentioning me and texts me there. But it wasn't the same. There was no flirting. Just random topics and her bullying me ironically. Tho she used to send me pictures of her random stupid pictures of her all day. One day I randomly mentioned ki i still like you and she said but she only talks to me as friend. It was very tough for me. But i was like okay thats fine. Then once our entire group went for ganpati pandal hopping. She asked me if she can sit on my bike while we roam around. On the last second she said that what is the same brother sees us together again. She went to sit with some other guy. I was devastated that day. I didn't feel like hanging out. So I returned home without informing anyone. On my way home I burnt a cig after not smoking for 2 years. I came back home and cried. Didn't talk to her for 2 days. She didn't text me as well. 3rd day pe she texted me again saying she misses me. I tried to confront her and she said she actually only sees me as a genuine friend only.

I told her that I keep getting hurt and we should talk less. She agreed but started texting me the next day again. Also the people in the club noticed that she's always watching me from sideeye and her face brightens up whenever anyone even mentions my name she gets flustered.

It was her bday a few days ago. She didn't invite me. Went with her male best friend (she is only allowed to go out with him), her female best friend and female best friends boyfriend. She posted a picture with her male bestf and ISTG I FEEL LIKE SKINNING THE GUY ALIVE. Im so nice and gentle with her all the time. Idk why won't she just choose me. It's not like I'm ugly for anything. Im above average when it comes to looks.

Another side note - shes had 2 exes, both of them were very harsh with her. One even abused her mother. But I'm nothing like them. Even after getting so much hurt , not once I've said something bad about to her anyone. I understand where she comes from, she can't disappoint her mom. Like she wants me to give her boyfriend treatment while she treats me like a close friend. And it's seriously draining me so much. I can't concentrate on anything. Like idk what to do, she calls me at 12 am and talks to me for 4 hours straight. But considers me only a friend.

Im just tired and drained but I can't afford to lose this person. She's just everything I wanted in a partner, smart, funny, pretty and intelligent. WHAT SHOULD I DOO PLEASE HELP ME IM GOING LITERALLY INSANE 😭😭😭😭

So 2 weeks ago I matched this girl, and we kind of got this connection and started talking to each other. This week she confessed that she likes me but I got to know that she is still active on dating apps.

Is it ok or am I overthinking ?

I'm 23M and I'm an ambiverted person, I lack confidence, it's the way I was raised that I struggle to approach people. I'm extremely outgoing and open with my friends (only male friends, I have zero female friends). People always tell me I'm good looking and can find anybody easily, basically I get told a lot that women like me, but they never approach me. I also maintain my looks and physique. But I agree I give off a feminine vibe. But I have zero feelings for men.

I can understand emotions very well but I can't convey my own. I have had a few crushes before, but never been in a relationship. A girl had approached me once but I wasn't able to hold the conversation very long and literally hurried out of there.

So my main question is how do I change this situation of mine? How do I gain the confidence to approach someone I like very much. How do I build my personality so that I'm more approachable if someone feels like it?

I can talk to women confidently if it's some kind of professional talk, I can't or more specifically I don't know how to talk to them casually like friends. I'm also a very emotional person who can clearly what emotion the other person is going through and can understand if someone likes me or not based on their body language and words. But I just can't convey them and bottle up everything. I guess what I actually need is a therapist.

NRI Couple (3 months into marriage) - and In laws turned up for a vacation

Hi, I’m a F29 who recently got married and moved to USA. We were in love- I have an MBA from a reputed school but due to visa requirements - I cannot yet work in this country so I’m a housewife. I had a 30LPA job back at home.

It was hard to adjust to doing nothing all day. My husband is extremely caring and our dynamics were building up. We’ve had fights like any normal couple. I also deal with PCOD and anxiety issues for years now (something my husband knows but my in laws don’t) and I’m not used to doing full time chores around the house - we share the housework here.

My in laws showed up - earlier I was communicated it would be a 2 week thing but turned out to be a 1 month vacation - with the pretext that they are coming to bond with me - specifically with me. We had a cultural gap and both of us don’t speak each others language - and my FIL has been behind me to learn the language so that they can communicate with me - they speak other languages too - but somehow when I’m around - still they choose to speak in the language I don’t fully understand or can speak.

Coming to cooking- I didn’t cook all 7 days a week and here in US - you don’t have help so you end up doing other things other than cooking too - not once has my MIL offered to cook a meal for the entirety of the stay - she’s also shown discomfort for ordering food from outside when I didn’t cook - and it was the morning after we had that meal (dinner previous day) - we asked her if she wanted to eat the specific item we were getting and at that time she didn’t offer to cook but she told me why did we need to order - she would’ve just cooked

Next, his parents were here to primarily know me or speak to me and didn’t talk about anything related to me for the entirety of the stay - I just felt so excluded in the entire period - only when my husband came back home did I find some relief

They weren’t saying anything to me on my face - everything was via - my husband

They’re vegetarians and I’m a non vegetarian. I follow their rules while I’m at their place. I eat the food they cook, I help around but when they visited it was just an unsaid expectation from me to not cook non veg in the house or even eat non veg outside - if I had to then I had to be seated in a separate table

I’ve had difficult days in which my body has not allowed me to do things around the house - and I’ve communicated that with my husband and only then has his mom cooked - once other times we ordered out

I just think it’s so insensitive - I might be overreacting that they were probably not here to bond with me but to see my perform my duties as a wife and have a vacation for themselves - I had a lot of mental load for groceries and to be present - again nothing explicitly said but one time I miss a dinner or they don’t see me - there is a comment for care she didn’t come down or see us

Please tell me if I’m over analysing or if this is how in laws are - I know most people might have it worse - but atleast don’t wear the garb of something you’re not

I 22F am in a relationship for last 2.5 years and i think i am the worst person to be in a relationship with ig . I never had a very happy relationship with my mother although my very big joint family is very good to me “spoiled” so i somehow know what love is . For me its care , respect and expression. I was in a very wierd 1 year relationship with a guy which ended well badly but i found someone just after 3 months . At first he seemed like a knight in shiniy armour but after some months i realised this person cant be happy amd always looking for someone to blame . He couldn’t crack his CAT , he blamed me for it also his mother . After a year of relationship we started a business together but again his family got in the middle of it and after just 6 months , they wanted their son to leave the business and me by blaming that i illegally made all my money . Fair enough , he did joined bavk after 2 months but things got bad between us. He started saying u r not theright person , ur not beautiful bla bla almost regularly. Still i wanted to stay . But out of nowhere he started like i dont love u anymore but lets stay as business partners. But we did slept in between sometimes together . But i was so devastated to see our things going like this that just after 1.5 of his rejoicing i liter started begging him to step down and leave the business . I am guilty of doing that very overly for constant 3 4 days but then i was like fine am sorry . But by the. He told his mom and friends and they left me one msg and blocked me . His mother said that i am this ans that ( she never said any sorry for anything she did) . I worked my ass off all alone on the counter for straight 13 hours everyday for a month without any help . For the first timein my fucking life . We gain started talking after a month and started dating secretly as a start over but its been 4 month now and he keep disrespecting me , mocking me like u this u irritate me , abusing sometimes and everything and then achanak act like he did nothing . Am at fault for crying .

I really really love this guy but cant do this anymore. Idk why am still attached . That i cant just let go of him but i cant . I am ok to know that i mean nothing to know one
But i want to get deattached like him
How can someone do things like this after a 3 year relationship? Also this is his first relationship btw

I’m from Gujarat, India, and during my summer vacation I met a Chinese-American girl online. We started talking and eventually got into a relationship.

At first, I wasn’t taking it too seriously because I had gone through a heartbreak a few months earlier, so I was trying not to get too emotionally involved. But over time, I think I’ve started genuinely liking her.

She used to ask me to video call and voice call her, but I usually avoided picking up. The main reason is that I’m not very confident with my spoken English.

We mostly talk through Instagram and WhatsApp, where I can take my time to think about what I want to say. We also play COD and Fortnite together, and during games I can speak a little because the conversation is usually about simple things. But when it comes to a proper voice or video call, I get nervous and feel like I won’t be able to communicate properly.

I’ve also made excuses like saying my mom is nearby and I can’t talk, or telling her we’ll call another time. Then I never actually follow up and call her.

She has also asked for my address and wants to video call more often. I’ve avoided those things too, partly because I’m nervous and partly because I wasn’t sure how serious this relationship would become.

But now I feel like I actually want to talk to her more and get closer to her. The problem is that my English is still holding me back.

I know my English doesn’t have to be perfect, but I’m scared of awkward silences, not understanding what she says, or not knowing how to respond quickly.

What should I do? Should I just be honest with her about my English and start calling her anyway? And if you’ve ever been in a similar situation, how did you get comfortable speaking English with someone you really liked?

I'm 21f and this is my first relationship. We've been in an LDR for around 9 months and we've never met in person.

He's already broken my trust multiple times. Around 4 times I've found things that hurt me, but I still forgave her because I was really attached to him

There was also a guy she told me was a female friend. After around 7 months, I found out she was actually a gir and had been his best friend for 3 years. I still forgave her.

Today, we were on VC and she was screen sharing. I saw a chat with a guy and asked her to open it. He suddenly said "Mummy aa gayi" and cut the call.

Later, when he came back, I found out he had deleted that chat.

Now I'm just confused. I don't know what was in that chat, but after everything that's happened before, it's really difficult for me to trust him.

What should I do? Give him another chance or finally walk away?