Tuesday Check In: How's Everybody's Mental Health?

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[u/roving1]

Somewhat better, psych doubled my antidepressant. It seems to be helping.

[u/Fickle-Theory-623]

Spending more time focusing on today, and not what went wrong or not my way yesterday has helped. Hoping it course corrects sooner than later.

[u/Comrade_Casteway]

I've been noticeably placid this week. I'm not sure what that's about but people keep asking if I'm ok and I don't know what to say.

[u/chemguy216]

Got a call from my mom this morning. Her chihuahua, Chili, died. From the way my described how things went, I think Chili knew it was her time.

She went into my mom’s room, breathing heavily, and lay next to my mom. Not long after, she took her last breath.

It hurts for me because I was there for some time in Chili’s life. I know I’ll be okay sooner than my mom.

Rest in peace, Chili. You took care of my mom at a time when she really needed someone in her life. You were a tiny ball of cuteness, sass, and sweetness. Your love of people was always so endearing.

[u/2bitmoment → u/chemguy216]

I'm sorry for your and your family's loss

[u/One_Fact_4291]

I feel like spending less time online has
been helpful for my mental health. This may seem obvious to many here, but I’ve recently done it and it’s been great. Because people online voice their genuine, justified frustrations with very divisive or borderline hateful rhetoric, and when I try to respond they’ll often say I’m arguing in bad faith.

You may feel a bit of FOMO from a discussion and want to return to arguing with people online but that’s how phone addictions work. Since people IRL aren’t completely anonymous there’s more civility in IRL discussions.

[u/2bitmoment]

How are y'all when changing therapists? For me it's sometimes been hard, not sure if I'm averse to conflict, or if I have trauma related to being averse to conflict. But yeah, I stuck once with a bad therapist for years despite disliking it.

Seems like a weird contract, that of therapy, like a different type of contract than normally, like maybe they know better than you what you should do for example.

[u/Fickle-Theory-623 → u/2bitmoment]

the first time i switched it was awkward, every time thereafter I sent a generic email stating that I wished to terminate services without any official 'reason'. as a patient we have the right to terminate services inasmuch as they do. i am not proud of the number of therapists I have been to, though when 'shopping around' I am limited by my benefits and whether people are able to work with me or not. i got lucky a couple years ago and found someone decent.

[u/NoHippi3chic → u/2bitmoment]

I agree. Its always hard to.end any relationship. I always try and remember: people are in your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. The reality is vv few are there for life. Seems like your season with this person is coming to an end. and thats ok.