r/AskReddit • u/AuthorConfident9386 • 14h ago

Men, what’s one small, seemingly insignificant thing you’ve noticed that can be a telltale sign of the difference between a genuinely good man and a bad one?

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u/HillInTheDistance 11h ago edited 11h ago

Response to criticism.

Like, not criticism on a fuck-up, or quality of their work.

But when they have actually done something kinda shitty to someone.

I had a boss who made a kinda fucked up joke about a coworker once. Asked to talk in person about it, and his reaction was to just calmly listen, acknowlege that it was kinda fucked, and then not do it again.

The fact that he could take that kinda criticism from someone who worked for him, take it with grace, and actually change how he acted, made him the first and only boss I've actually respected as a person.

Hell, he fired me, and I can still only speak well of him.

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u/footsnax 7h ago

Learning how to properly give, receive, and respond to feedback should be taught in middle school.

It's one of the most important professional qualities you'll need when you're on the workforce. You are ineffective if you can not constructively give feedback or direction, you are ineffective if you can not interpret feedback or direction, you are ineffective if you can not deliver an effective response to said feedback.

You can be as good at your job as you want but if you can't work with anyone, nobody will want to work with you.

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u/bibrexd 5h ago

I actually just relearned this in a different way at work. Because criticism sandwiches suck and aren’t helpful. This new way is about walking through the feedback with the person. Saying what happened, how it affected you/someone else, the impact it had on them/you, and asking them their thoughts on it. Not that I’ve used it yet really but it stuck with me as such a better way to essentially “walk the situation” and explain why something happened.