r/AskReddit • u/AuthorConfident9386 • 13h ago

Men, what’s one small, seemingly insignificant thing you’ve noticed that can be a telltale sign of the difference between a genuinely good man and a bad one?

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u/Key-Article6622 12h ago

Is he, or she for that matter, real. I heard a poetry rave performance by the writer and it blew me away because it basically laid out the difference between a good man and a not good man, I don't think she distinguished gender or sex, but it was years ago so I don't remember it word for word, and I haven't found it searching yet, but I digress.

Real. Does he do what he says? Does he say what he'll do and do it? Does he believe what he says? Does he live by that belief? . . . and so on, It was like an 8 minute set and she fucking nailed it with a titanium spike. Answered this question much better than I could even summarize. But being real is the message. A good man is real in all things. A good man can be wrong and accept it. A good man could be right and denied for it. A good man is real. That's the message I took from the performance and it's stuck with me ever since, from years ago.

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u/DelusionalZ 7h ago

Obviously you aren't specifically singling out a gender here, but this is a real person thing. To me, anyone that is genuine like this ticks the boxes