r/AskReddit • u/AuthorConfident9386 • 13h ago

Men, what’s one small, seemingly insignificant thing you’ve noticed that can be a telltale sign of the difference between a genuinely good man and a bad one?

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u/thisnamemattersalot 12h ago

According to this thread I'm some sort of saint

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u/TroySandersBeard 6h ago

Well not being a dismissive oblivious asshole is a low bar.

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u/FitSharkKitty 1h ago

The bar may be low, but… why do so many people have shovels? You’re supposed to go OVER the bar, what’re you doing?

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u/GrumpyRutabaga 11h ago

That is ironically really, really bad.

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u/thisnamemattersalot 10h ago

Your meaning seems to have flown over my head, I'm afraid.

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u/GrumpyRutabaga 10h ago

Because at least half of these are about virtue signaling and don't highlight being good as much as being "nice" and being "politically acceptable"

Essentially, if you're everything people are mentioning, you're a spineless, valueless, harmless critter.

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u/thisnamemattersalot 8h ago

I don't quite understand your meaning. Are you trying to imply that you equate your value and your sense of courage with the amount of harm you cause? If that's the case I'm afraid I cannot relate in the slightest.

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u/GrumpyRutabaga 7h ago

Being incapable of causing harm is not something one should be proud of. I can explain it to you but I can't understand it for you.

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u/TheGoldenMonkey 5h ago

There's a difference between only doing what others want and following your own values and being kind.

I'm not sure that "harm" was the right word to use if what you're getting at is what I'm thinking, but please do elaborate.

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u/thisnamemattersalot 7h ago

Ahh no I think I get it, you're one of those guys that walk around unironically using words like "alpha" to describe yourself and blame women for not being into you, right?

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u/GrumpyRutabaga 7h ago

Yup. That's me. The parody of a strawman you create so you don't really need to consider the possibility of maybe things being different to how you assume them to be.

In the flesh.

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u/thisnamemattersalot 7h ago

It's not a strawman if it's something I'm unafraid of. Whatever the ridiculous equivalent of that is. Let's go with laughingstock. Anti-social behavior isn't a virtue, big dog.

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u/GrumpyRutabaga 7h ago

Not a single thing I have said relates at all to "antisocial behaviour".

That, too, is a strawman.

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u/Vind1carre 10h ago

As seen earlier in the thread: "Whenever a guy has to say he's a gentleman or a nice guy or bragging about the nice things they've done, even being a white knight"

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u/thisnamemattersalot 10h ago

Ahh, I didn't even consider that given there's nothing whatsoever to be gained from doing so in an anonymous internet space. Commenting here for my own amusement

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u/Vind1carre 10h ago

Self-aggrandisement even when "anonymous" (perhaps, particularly, when one feels anonymous) is Patrick Bateman level of narcissism.

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u/Budget_Bag7473 9h ago

He was just joking around bro, what's narcissistic about that 😭

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u/Vind1carre 8h ago

You're right, dude, posting you're a saint because you don't do any of the negative things mentioned in a thread, then not understanding why that's a red flag, then defending your unprompted "anonymous" bragging because you do it for your own amusement is making a joke; definitely not a display of narcissism.

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u/Budget_Bag7473 8h ago edited 8h ago

I'm pretty sure that his original comment was a sarcastic joke lol. He wasn't actually calling himself a "saint". I'm pretty sure he was just making a commentary on how normal some of the "good" behaviors here are

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u/thisnamemattersalot 7h ago

Hey you get points for reading comprehension!

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u/Vind1carre 7h ago

If he hadn't defended his position in subsequent posts, I could see that.

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u/flickering_candles 8h ago

god you do love to hear yourself don't you

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u/thisnamemattersalot 8h ago

A flair for hyperbole, have we?

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u/Vind1carre 7h ago

You're right, I'm no saint.