r/AskReddit • u/AuthorConfident9386 • 13h ago

Men, what’s one small, seemingly insignificant thing you’ve noticed that can be a telltale sign of the difference between a genuinely good man and a bad one?

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u/MeesterPepper 12h ago

Sportsmanship. When they lose, do they take it with dignity? Do they compliment the person who beat them, and learn from the loss? If it makes them upset or frustrated, can they keep it reigned in in the moment and deal with it in a healthy way later?

Or do they throw a tantrum, flip the table, cuss out/blame other people, insist the game wasn't fair or that someone cheated? Particularly egregious if we're talking about someone behaving this way over, say, their sports team of choice taking an L

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u/n3rdfighte7 11h ago

You mean like the guys that blame lag/disconnects or accuse me of cheating every time they lose a game , because its impossible that they would lose any other way?

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u/NotMyPrerogative 11h ago

No no no, my entire team sucked, everyone but me!

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u/TripleUltraMini 11h ago

That's only true in college where you have to do all of the work for the entire group project. /s

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u/_learned_foot_ 9h ago

I absolutely love judges because the vast majority go ballistic when attorneys try this. Plenty allow it, but more will rip the attorney to shreds. Mainly cause the rules make the attorney responsible for it all, the glory and the shit.

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u/Born-Entrepreneur 2h ago edited 2h ago

Hah, back in middle school our group used to say "I got my half!" when losing a game, if indeed as an individual, one of us did score half of the points needed to win. For 4v4 games like good old Halo 2 Slayer, is it too much to expect the other 3 to collectively get half the needed score?

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u/CompleteNumpty 6h ago

If I'm at the top of the table in an online game my lack of skill suggests that I'm in a truly terrible team.

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u/st0nedeye 3h ago

Blame the healer!

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u/Certain_Month_8178 11h ago

The guy who complains the sun got in his eyes during a night game of basketball

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u/RivenRise 10h ago

And here I am feeling bad cause my team managed to win in spite of me lmao.

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u/ReturnOfBane 9h ago

i didn't know you played against DSP

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u/DelusionalZ 7h ago

Don't blame yourself, that's selfish.

Blame your team. That's the selfless act.

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u/PopMundane4974 9h ago

To be fair, losing due to lag because you can't afford high speed super ultra mega nerd internet while some 12 year old blasts you because he has like 0 ping that his parents pay for is a valid reason to be mad.

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u/Draw-on-the-walls 10h ago

The way people treat their team mates on multiplayer games, safe to say most men under 30 who bother to speak in those games are bad people lol

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u/Certain_Month_8178 11h ago

Nate from Ted Lasso (seasons 1 &2) are a good case study for this

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u/nodnodwinkwink 6h ago

Same goes for how they act when they win. If someone is a sore loser but also obnoxious when they win it shows poor character.

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u/MeesterPepper 5h ago

One of the worst people I ever had the misfortune to play board games with was not only a sore loser and an overly gloaty winner, but just winning wasn't enough. They had to be in the lead the whole game and also win by an overwhelming landslide, or else they'd pout and complain the whole time about how stupid the game was and how other players must have an unfair advantage.

I'm not kidding, he'd do shit like be in first place with 25 points, someone would pull ahead to 26, and start literally crying because "I never get to win anything!". Everyone would calm him down, he'd take a turn and get up to 30 points, and then suddenly it'd be "you guys freaking SUCK ASS at this game! Like playing against toddlers, it's not even fair how much better I am!" Grown ass man pushing 30, having an emotional breakdown because he was in second place for two whole rounds.

We don't hang out anymore

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u/cmmedit 11h ago

do they throw a tantrum, flip the table, cuss out/blame other people, insist the game wasn't fair or that someone cheated

Huh. Sounds like you're talking about when my bro and I play video games against each other. We're both mid 40s.