r/AskReddit • u/AuthorConfident9386 • 13h ago

Men, what’s one small, seemingly insignificant thing you’ve noticed that can be a telltale sign of the difference between a genuinely good man and a bad one?

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u/Stoictripreset 12h ago

Or their personality or attitude doesn’t change toward other men when a woman enters the room.

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u/Militantpoet 12h ago

What?

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u/DukeRedWulf 12h ago

You've never seen a bunch of idiots suddenly trying to "score points" off each other by talking sh!t at their "friends", just because a conventionally attractive woman has shown up?

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u/Militantpoet 12h ago

No im not friends with assholes lmao

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u/KennysWhiteSoxHat 12h ago

I’d be surprised if you’ve navigated life and never seen anybody change how they act for someone they’re interested in even if the person doesn’t like them

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u/Militantpoet 11h ago

Maybe when I was a kid? I've long stopped associating with people who arent self aware enough to realize other people can recognize when theyre being disingenuous or patronizing. 

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u/DukeRedWulf 11h ago

Neither am I, but I've been in social situations with groups of men who are strangers to me, and I've seen this change happen very blatantly..

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u/Ouch_i_fell_down 11h ago

I'm not friends with assholes either currently, but you're really going to tell me every friend you've made at every single stage/moment of your life was a good choice? Never a single misfire? Never a bad egg?

Seems pretty far-fetched.

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u/Militantpoet 11h ago

Lol idk dude. I try to surround my life with more positivity than not. If I was friends with anyone like that, it would have been in high school and college. And even now I cant think of anyone I'd call an actual friend that behaved like that. Friends of friends or casual acquaintance. 

Reading some of the other comments helped me understand better what people are referring to, so I get it, ty

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u/FujiwaraHelio 8h ago

They dont have to be your friends LmAo

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u/_learned_foot_ 9h ago

I read that inverse, as in they "clean up" when being watched (not just language, but types of jokes, a hidden sexist is still sexist being the implication). Both are applicable ironically.

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u/BigCelebration13 12h ago

There's a really dumb attempt to start up gender war content on Reddit making up fake misandry stuff to try and get people mad. That post is just part of that.

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u/uhhhhhhhhh_okay 12h ago

Yeah this isn't that bud

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u/BigCelebration13 12h ago

uhhhhhhhhh okay

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u/Jaijoles 11h ago

There’s men that talk shit about women when no women are around.

There’s men who put down other men that are there when women are around to make themselves look better.

Both of those are just types of people that exist. That has nothing to do with pushing a gender war. Just two different types of shitty men.

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u/BigCelebration13 11h ago

Haven't really seen that I guess, despite being a man.

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u/Stoictripreset 8h ago

If you hang around enough people you’ll eventually run into it.

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u/BigCelebration13 8h ago

I dunno. I hang around a lot of people. Maybe I just don't give off a vibe that that's poke. Also, it's hilarious that I'm being downvoted because I never ran into that kind of jerk, but that's Reddit.

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u/Stoictripreset 8h ago

Yea, it’s not really about vibes. It’s just drastically noticeable when someone changes who they are in a scenario like that. Probably just an insecurity thing, idk.

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u/noiro777 6h ago

No it's really not and the only person that seems mad is you ...