r/AskReddit • u/AuthorConfident9386 • 13h ago

Men, what’s one small, seemingly insignificant thing you’ve noticed that can be a telltale sign of the difference between a genuinely good man and a bad one?

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u/Green_Field113 12h ago

The amount of men who change into a completely different person when they're around women is insane.

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u/Slice5755 12h ago edited 12h ago

Exactly. All of a sudden everything becomes a competition and trying to see who is the most "macho".

Edit: Just about a month ago, we had a lady move into our previously all male department of 8 men. We had great banter and made jokes about each other, you know in a friendly way as we were all quite close.

As soon as the lady joined, things changed. I just made a joke about one of my colleagues getting a flat tyre and driving 7 miles because he forgot his car jack at home. Tame soft joke, nothing too serious or personal.

The guy literally calls me a dick in front of everyone and then room falls silent. Keep in mind, we've made jokes about even more personal stuff in the past. Afterwards he also sends me a Teams message saying that my joke was out of line. I asked him why and he said basically we don't want to create a bad impression in front of our new colleague (referring to the lady) meanwhile, while we've both been working here, there's been about 12 new male colleagues and making jokes in front of them was never an issue for him until now.

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u/hearke 11h ago

If only he understood, having thick skin and being able to brush off embarassing moments is much more appealing to women than being easily offended and upset.

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u/Sushisource 3h ago

I read "department" as "apartment" at first, and when you said he messaged you on Teams I was thinking "what absolute psychopaths use Teams for their friendly group chat?".

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u/bbusiello 5h ago

Because men are afraid women will laugh at them... women are afraid that men will kill them.

I've been laughed at before... I'm still alive, guys. It's just that easy.

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u/PlacatedPlatypus 11h ago

Lol you must be around different men than me. I am in a very left-wing area and it is incredible how sexist the majority of leftist men are when women aren't around. They're super respectful and kind to women when they're present to a coddling degree. But then as soon as it's just the boys around they complain about how ill-tempered, unreasonable, manipulative, and immature women are.

And the more charming and successful they are with women, the more hateful they are towards them when it's just the dudes.

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u/SuperSpecialAwesome- 7h ago

I am in a very left-wing area and it is incredible how sexist the majority of leftist men are when women aren't around.

Damn, you'd hate to see how sexist this guy Donnie is then, as not only does he mock women in his presidential speeches, but he "grabs 'em by the pussy". Love how you clutch your pearls about your made-up bullshit, when your right-wing leaders rape women.

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u/PlacatedPlatypus 7h ago

I'm a liberal, brother. Wouldn't call myself a leftist but definitely not a trumper.

You, on the other hand, sound like a hit dog hollering.

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u/PlsDntPMme 6h ago

See a I know both people like that. Dudes who get a bit much when it’s just the boys and dudes who aren’t like that at all. It just depends on the people. Fake people suck though

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u/No_Adhesiveness_4671 11h ago

men have hormones too

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u/TheOnlyToasty 1h ago

I have a coworker like this, and as delivery workers it happens constantly. I don't care who pops up around me, I just wanna go home.