r/AskReddit • u/AuthorConfident9386 • 13h ago

Men, what’s one small, seemingly insignificant thing you’ve noticed that can be a telltale sign of the difference between a genuinely good man and a bad one?

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u/DeadWest1884 12h ago

When every other sentence begins with “I’m not racist, but…”

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u/Z_T_O 12h ago

I’m not racist, but I think those pants are a really good fit on you

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u/KittensAndGravy 11h ago

“Those” pants … who do you think you are?!?! Racist!

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u/ThereAndFapAgain2 9h ago

I'm not a racist, I'm just really good at running.

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u/Ambitious_Address667 11h ago

Worse is when every other sentence starts with "I am racist, but....:

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u/n3rdfighte7 11h ago

What if I am racist and no butts?

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u/Reddeer2 11h ago

I'm not racist but, there's a special place in hell for people who abuse animals.

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u/elihu 9h ago

If someone were to say that once, I'd have my doubts about him.

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u/Jeramy_Jones 8h ago

Or “I don’t have a problem with the gays/trans but…”

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u/GarlicPickle109 12h ago

Let's face it: ANYONE who starts a statement with "I'm not _______, but..." is probably ________. It's like saying "I'm only joking/kidding" when you say something objectionable - it's an attempt to negate or deny bad behavior so you can get away with it. No, you're being an asshole and should be called out on it.

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u/coleman57 9h ago

Like a salesguy I knew who would preface every lie with “In all honesty…”

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u/Tight_File2220 12h ago

I'm not a serial killer but you're probably right.

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u/GarlicPickle109 12h ago

Oh, that took a dark turn rather quickly... 😂