r/justgalsbeingchicks • u/td_0000 • Jul 31 '26

Restricted to Gals and Pals She has some really good Things to say!

Credit goes to candasifamabarnes on Instagram

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u/SadBadPuppyDad Jul 31 '26

Most of what she says is true, with one very glaring issue. She says "at the end of the day it's simple". At the end of the day it can be simple, but understanding and applying each of these learnings takes a great deal of learning and practice to make be simple.

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u/[deleted] Jul 31 '26 edited Sep 01 '26

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u/aNiceTribe Jul 31 '26

At the end of the day, rocket science is about making the fire water in the rocket go hot and making sure the pointy end points that way. Everything can be described in simple and clarifying terms, and every endeavor is an endless fractal of learning and specialization. 

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u/LevanderFela Jul 31 '26

Simple vs. complicated, easy vs. hard. Things can be hard to do yet simple, or complicated (or difficut to comprehend, understand due to complexity) yet easy to to change.

Been a great revelation for me - both in personal and professional life.

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u/Fuddle Jul 31 '26

Lifting a heavy weight is simple, you pick it up and lift. But it takes many days and weeks of lifting smaller weights until you have the strength to lift something heavy.

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u/GlastoKhole Jul 31 '26

Yeah it’s simple to get fit, it couldn’t be simpler, if you walk for an hour a day, and eat under your maintenance calories you’d get a lot fitter pretty quickly, I’m talking you’d see a difference in a month.

The difference is it’s not easy, some people have compulsions to eat when they’re bored, angry, sad, tired. The difficulty is mastering that. Some people have busy schedules and can’t walk for an hour every day, or injuries or disabilities, the difficulty is managing your schedule, moving things around so you have time, or managing conditions that would otherwise cause difficulty.

swapping walking for swimming is a fix but it introduces the need for a pool locally, the cost of affording a membership comes into play, needing a way to get there so needing a car etc etc etc. the science is simple but so many people struggle and it is considered one of the most difficult journeys to go on.

You can see how easily something that looks simple and sounds simple can suddenly become a mountain to climb when you start to work around small problems to make it work as each new step to succeed introduces new challenges to overcome.

I think the best way to do stuff like this is ignore the big picture, genuinely do the simplest thing you can do consistently, when that gets easy add more simple things. Can’t walk for an hour due to health, fitness, injury? Walk for 10 mins or do as many sit ups as you can, keep doing that till it’s easy, then double it etc etc etc.

Finances a problem, try to save a few bucks every day, thirsty but your at work? Get a glass of water and skip on expensive drinks, take lunch with you if you eat out at work, etc etc. this obviously won’t fix your issues if you’re in mountains of debt but it does help with savings.

Struggling in school, genuinely sit down for an hour every day and focus on a topic you don’t understand or are struggling with, watch YouTube vids on the topic, AI can even make podcasts now where you input the information you need and two agents will discuss the topic like it’s a podcast, honestly I found this really helpful when driving etc rather than music I’d listen to key concepts of things I didn’t really understand and genuinely it made a big difference to me getting it.

People say studying is simple, or studying is hard and both are right and wrong, if something is difficult for you, take little tiny bites at a time and it’s much easier to swallow, I think anyway

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u/Moldy_Teapot Jul 31 '26

The bit about anxiety irks me. Normal anxiety fits what she's saying, but disordered anxiety is literally the result of the sympathetic nervous system being activated inappropriately. Oftentimes it just happens, or, like me, is a near constant thing that you can't just turn off by "being present in the moment". Most of the time, "being present in the moment" is what actually triggers my anxiety!

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u/ArtistPasserby Jul 31 '26

Yes, and trauma rewires the brain.

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u/hahahahahahahaFUCK Jul 31 '26

lol! I was looking for this comment. Thinking ahead is what gets me unstuck from the anxiety of feeling trapped in the present (and that’s sometimes, depending on the day).

I wonder so much what it must be like to be “normal”.

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u/wasterni Jul 31 '26

I hope I am asking this appropriately and feel free not to answer of course. What does being present in the moment look like for you and how does that twist into a feeling of anxiety?

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u/ConclusionExciting95 Jul 31 '26

I can answer that from my perspective. I exist and then I experience symptoms of anxiety. There are no thoughts that are conjured up that are causing the feeling. I'm not actively worrying about anything or thinking something bad is going to happen. There isn't something I do that "twists" anything into a feeling of anxiety. My brain decided some of the things that most people are okay with should make me feel the same fight or flight physical reactions someone might feel if they were being chased by an axe murderer. Racing heart, fidgeting hands, narrowed vision.

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u/ChemicallyDelicious Jul 31 '26

Spot on!

I suffered for 4 yrs with an ulcerating stomach lining from taking prescribed Meloxicam (Rx Strength Advil), every day, for years, under the watch of a doc, who was trying to help my unmedicated (because no insurance) acute spine arthritis... The very same doc who couldn't figure out why I had stomach pain initiated panic attacks.

Got a second opinion and his first question was "WHY ARE YOU TAKING THIS EVERYDAY?". Near instant relief for my "sunburned" stomach. And, after 2 yrs, I am panic free. Fckrz

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u/mephnick Jul 31 '26

It's giving "just don't be depressed and think positively!"

Yeah, would if I could

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u/precioustessious Jul 31 '26

And for many of us, medication. I would not be able to function normally if I was not properly medicated.

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u/ReturnOfBane Jul 31 '26

lifting a boulder is simple: you just grab it and lift. Actually being physically able to lift it is hard.

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u/xxPlsNoBullyxx Aug 01 '26

It's correct but definitely over-simplified advice. We are not always capable of making the best choice. We are not always able to remove negative thoughts and replace them with positive ones. There are many reasons and layers to this that I'm too tired to go in to, but I'm sure most people understand anyway.

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u/LORDLRRD Jul 31 '26

lol your username explains why you wanted to find an issue