Can I ask how do you do it? How do you compartmentalize your grief and go on? How do you go home after a shift and have a normal life? It seems so impossibly tough. Thank you for your work.
It’s incredibly hard. I have an amazing spouse who used to work in the medical field so I have a ton of support. My boys are teens now but they give amazing hugs that really ground me when I get home. Also, meds and therapy. No need for thanks, I do what I’m passionate about and love. It’s hard but the ones that walk out our door and go home make everything worth it.
Mr Rogers once said, "When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, 'Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping'"
My sister is a hospice nurse. I ask her how she does it, knowing that every single one of her patients is going to die. I guess for her it's different since she understands that from the get go. She does what she can for them to ease their transition.
I'll have a bunch of amazing people to welcome me to whatever comes next. I miss a lot of them now! Hospice nurse for a couple years, SNF, and labor and delivery. Luckily never lost a mom or baby!
You are a gem. I know you don’t want thanks, but I’m gonna go ahead and say thank you anyway. Not all of us are built for that, but we clearly need some to step up and do it. You step up and we appreciate you. ❤️
I'm doing everything I can and everything I'm supposed to. I am fulfillin my duty of care. I am giving these people the best shot at healing and survival that I can give them.
Those are all the things I can do and all the things I can control. Everything else is beyond my purview.
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u/Grand-Spring66 Jul 19 '26
Can I ask how do you do it? How do you compartmentalize your grief and go on? How do you go home after a shift and have a normal life? It seems so impossibly tough. Thank you for your work.