Depends. I was in a similar boat. Then I started hanging out with a different group of people. One of the girls took me to her room after a party at her house. You should find the right group maybe. I’m an overweight average joe btw.
Put yourself out there and you might get lucky. You miss all shots you don't take. I'm speaking from experience. Also if you can't be happy enough alone (you can be happier with someone, just not unhappy or depressed alone) you should work on that first too.
It's simple, they want you to approach them if you are hot, and if you are ugly you're a creep if you do so. But if you are ugly, the reason you are lonely is automatically because you dont "put yourself out there". Its a lose a lose and its always your fault
Honestly advice: from watching what they do and hearing but not taking what they say at face value
Most want to be asked out and pursued
Most also don't want guys they don't like asking them out
Fucking none of em want a guy who can't take their rejection or lack of interest well.
So what can you do? Be friendly, be social. It's okay to talk to a woman at your gym or at a bar or whatever. If you're getting the vibe she's not interested? Give her an out and be on your way. Preemptively take the rejection well and move on. If she might be, it's okay to ask her out but if she says no, then again give her an out and be on your way.
If she can't be at the gym and have a guy be friendly, and politely gauge her interest, and then take her lack of interest well and not make it her problem? That's on her not you.
Women aren't a monolith my brother. They don't all want the same thing, or are motivated by the same factors, or find the same things (or types of people) enjoyable.Â
Find one that matches your energy and what you want. Don't want someone who plays games? Walk away like the guy in OPs post. Want the thrill of the hunt and an eventual trophy? Then pursue the type who plays hard to get. Just don't treat "women" as all the same....
So since women arent a monolith, does that mean evil women exist? IDK about that one, a lot of very angry people have been telling me they dont exist and that men are inherently evil unlike women, who are inherently awesome......
There are good people and bad people - just like there are good dogs and bad dogs (despite what Reddit says about dogs!!!). If you see all men as the same, and all women as the same, I don't know what to tell you or how to help you broaden your horizons and thinking, but you need to do that.
That's what they said. Its true though, all the woman talk to each other and get there stories straight. What do you think they're doing in the bathroom?
If I had a nickel for every time I found that somebody had shit on the outside of the underside of a toilet in the women's restroom at Peter Piper Pizza, I would have two nickels. Which isn't much, but it's weird that it happenned twice.
Women on Reddit love to point to the .o1 percent of men that are violent and blame the 99 percent that are not. Or the women on Reddit love to point to 50 years ago some men treated women badly, yet us modern men are to pay the price.
If you don’t like being generalized, the women of Reddit shouldnt generalize. Don’t ask us to do something you’re not willing to do yourself.
It helps when you realise that women, just like men, aren't a monolith. Some people like to play these types of shitty games and they're best ignored. Most people are straight up and those are the people worth your time.
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u/Acrobatic-List-6503 10d ago
At this point I don't know what women want anymore.
Do you want us to pursue you? Do you want us to respect your boundaries? Do you want us to hunt you down?