Regrets And Perspectives

[u/Timbucktwo1230]

[u/paperanddoodlesco]

Imagine we had a country with free childcare - neither would have sacrificed themselves.

[u/subs_on_a_sailboat → u/paperanddoodlesco]

Or simple contraception. This whole narrative is derived from the kids being a surprise and not a conscious choice by either parent.

[u/candybubbless → u/subs_on_a_sailboat]

Yeah lol who would've thought that multiple unplanned pregnancies before college would make life more difficult.

[u/SnooJokes352 → u/paperanddoodlesco]

Imagine thinking dumping your kids onto someone else all day so you can buy more shit is parenting

[u/Inevitable_Nail_2215 → u/SnooJokes352]

Yeah, more shit like healthcare, retirement accounts, and a home.

[u/SnooJokes352 → u/Inevitable_Nail_2215]

Why not just have them all? 99% of people in america are constantly spending money on dumb things they think they earned/deserve.

[u/Carbonatite → u/SnooJokes352]

Imagine thinking that building a career you love isn't something that can be inherently gratifying and fulfilling.

[u/not_now_chaos → u/SnooJokes352]

Imagine being such a shitty human as to frame childcare for working parents this way.

[u/SnooJokes352 → u/not_now_chaos]

Sounds like you didnt want to actually be a parent. A very small.percentage of the population really seems cut out for it

[u/FujiwaraHelio → u/SnooJokes352]

Having the choice is what we want. The freedom to choose.

[u/Dudewhocares3 → u/SnooJokes352]

Imagine thinking you deserve to be taken seriously after arguing in bad faith

[u/Suitable-Raccoon-319 → u/paperanddoodlesco]

Who will do the childcare for free? 

[u/GoddessHealer → u/Suitable-Raccoon-319]

A tax-subsidized system of childcare.
Or even better, 2 years of parental paid leave, able to be split between both parents. Like in Denmark.🇩🇰

[u/Suitable-Raccoon-319 → u/GoddessHealer]

A tax-subsidized system of childcare.

We are sort of trying that in my area. It's government subsidized low cost daycare. The waiting list is very long. You have to join the queue before the baby is born to hope to get into the program before the child goes into first grade. This is because they're struggling to find businesses and people willing to do ECE work for the amount the government is able to pay. 

2 years of parental paid leave, able to be split between both parents. Like in Denmark.🇩🇰

It doesn't account for the lost time in terms of advancing your career, and a 2 year old will still have to go to daycare at the very least, if not additional time off by the parents, or alternative care from friends/family. 

One way or another, someone has to spend the time on childcare. If it's not the parent(s), it's somebody else who is either volunteering their time or being paid to do it. 

[u/Dan-D-Lyon → u/Suitable-Raccoon-319]

You will.

Thanks in advance!

[u/Suitable-Raccoon-319 → u/Dan-D-Lyon]

Ayyy, nothing more leftist than feeling entitled to free labor. 

[u/spacer9631 → u/paperanddoodlesco]

I dont have to imagine, I can look at countries that already do that and realize what a stupid fucking idea it is.