Caught my gay boyfriend with a woman

[u/rawolf_]

I have been going out with my boyfriend for 9 years and he has always identified as gay even though he has had sex with women before. He claims he might be on the bisexual spectrum but he identifies as gay because he has never been in a romantic relationship with a woman nor is he interested in one. We are currently in a monogamous relationship but we have had an open relationship before on and off. During our open relationship he mostly had sex with men. He only had sex 1 time with a woman during our time together. He’s 38 and im 33 we are both masculine gay men and straight passing. We are both on good terms in our relationship and we have no issues that i know so finding him fucking a woman behind my back is not something he would normally do. Whenever any of us feel the urge to mess around we talk about it and open the relationship and we’ve always been understanding of each other. So it’s definitely a shock visiting my boyfriend at his home and finding him pounding a chick. I recorded the audio/video just in case he denies it. I left before they saw me and i haven’t told him about it. I just need time to confront him and decide what to say…

[u/InThaShower4]

First time I can say yeh he’s obviously cheating , he taking her to clap state university.